"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How to be persistent and aggressive without appearing needy and desperate?
- Thread starter lazikia
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
There was this girl at my old job. I'd flirt with her, She'd flirt back. But I still couldn't get her to commit to a meetup outside the office. So sometimes I'd back off - turn off the attention faucet (attention is like currency to these girls). Then she'd come on stronger to get the attention back.
I'd say stuff like, "It's Friday. What are WE doing this weekend? Wine & massages?" Like I know her shy as* was gonna say no. But I wanted to get the idea across that I was trying to get with her. This wasn't some kind of friendship deal.
Or she'd say "My parents are away for the weekend..."
And before the sentence finished I'd say "So you're inviting me over?" Just playful funny stuff.
This works when the girl is shy or playing hard to get, but she's still INTO whatever game you're kicking. If a girl doesn't like you, this stuff won't work. It took like two months of toying around with her before I got her out of the office and in bed, but it taught me that "no" isn't always no. This was years ago...these days I feel like there are too many girls out there for me to sweet talk one for weeks at a time.
It's not that persistence is a bad thing, it's just that these days, I'd rather invest my time and energy in a girl who KNOWs what she wants instead of sitting around playing the "I like him/I don't know if I like him" game.
JdelaSilviera
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
wasted-nick
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The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
You can't assume for a second that being persistent and aggressive is a good thing... maybe Persistent/aggressive was the best choice at the time, considering the chump satellites hovering by said chick.
Making assumptions can land you in a lot of trouble, all around.
Sir Psycho Sexy
Senior Don Juan
Playing hard to means she is interested...just gotta play your cards right.
new_hotness
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The situation today is that most guys are huddled away in a corner playing video games eating fast food with no social skills.
Any guy who makes a move of any kind therefore is going to stand out in a positive way.
Don't be afraid to take a chance, dude. The only way to fail is by being afraid to fail.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.