How to be Icemann?

[European-DJ]

Honestly, i need some serious help with this issue!

I have to become some kind of an IceMann, since i hate the fact that i get too emotionally involved .. I get hurt everytime, and sometimes heartache is worse than getting beat up ..

Any help/post's/advice?

Please.

Regards

 

[joverby]

This is a reoccuring theme with a lot of guys. Used to be me too.

It's not that you need to be some Iceman. It's that you need other sh1t going on in your life. More hobbies/activities and friends etc.

Which should lead to more self esteem which won't make you get as hurt and a bigger social circle which should lead to meeting more girls.

 

[sexysuave]

Hmmm, you're in luck!! Iceman himself actually posts on this forum!!

Iceman, educate please!!

 

[C-quenced]

Honestly, i need some serious help with this issue!

I have to become some kind of an IceMann, since i hate the fact that i get too emotionally involved .. I get hurt everytime, and sometimes heartache is worse than getting beat up ..

Any help/post's/advice?

Please.

Regards

It's a real b!tch to deal with this situation. I KNOW because I used to be this way. You'll likely have to rough it out through experience and several severe heartbreaks and eventually you'll just stop giving a ****.

It'll help a great deal if you QUIT trying to get married and stop looking for an LTR. The sooner you acknowledge that there's no one special woman out there in existence waiting for you the sooner you'll find peace within yourself. Come to terms with the fact that you need to STOP taking women so goddamn serious. Forget what society tells you and STOP building your life around women. When you're building your life you build it around yourself and your own happiness. This life is for you so don't let anyone else run it (especially a female).

 

[Scars]

Date a girl with borderline personality disorder for awhile. By the time you guys break up you will be emotionally calloused and hard as a rock.

All "joking" a side..

Don't be too ashamed or hard on yourself for having feelings. It's human nature. It's alright to be bummed over a girl every once in awhile. If they didn't effect us in some way, then we wouldn't learn from our mistakes. We would just keep repeating them. Instead, I offer you a different approach. Take your pain and use it as a tool for growth. Realize where you went wrong and fix it.

If you feel that the actual "problem" is still your attachment issues, then maybe you need to distract yourself more, or spin more plates. Not becoming attached quickly is also a skill, much like some of the other stuff you've learned here. You won't ever be a full blown sociopath (probably a good thing), but you can slow down the process of falling in "love" through time, and reminding yourself of all the battle wounds you suffered from the past.

-Scars

 

[Tiguere]

you would have to go through an emotional trauma before that happens. like getting backstabbed by a close friend relative then looking yourself in the mirror and realize you are on your own in this cruel world.

 

[AlexDP]

Date a girl with borderline personality disorder for awhile. By the time you guys break up you will be emotionally calloused and hard as a rock.

All "joking" a side..

It does solve his problem . I mean, I'm sure it's risky, as there are stories of guys who have simply killed themselves over these AW's, but as long as you don't commit suicide, you do come out of it a much better man.

 

[Strelok]

It depends on the chemistry of your brain, just like a drug addict who dope his brain chemistry needs more and more of the same substance to have an effect, a man whos used to be struck from emotion develop a certain tolerance therefore the effect is lower.

To desensitize young man before war in soviet russia they were forced to kill some beasts.

 

[Chamber36]

I think it's better to get HOT than it is to get cold.

 

[European-DJ]

Hmm.. Some of this advice was very helpfull! ..

The problem is, usually, i only love the thrill of the chase .. but when a girl (like this one) took me ½ year to bed ( i was bedding others while hunting her), then i instantly fall in love..

Why?? because i finally have her, and simply wont let go .. atm i am in a relationsship with her .. but honestly, i do not trust her .. another problem - i tend to become very jealous.