"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How to be a Wingman?
- Thread starter toma
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
- Manage the obstacles
- Hype up you're friend (Yes you can brag about you're friend)
- Have fun together (Girl's love seeing guys and there friends having fun)
- Share stories that have to do with you're friend in it
For instance, if you're at a bar with a couple friends and there's 3 girls sitting at a table with a few spare chairs, I'll go up and talk to them for about 5 minutes and say something like "well, nice meetin' yall, I got to get back to my friends... unless you want some more company?"
Usually I get a positive response.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My friend, Johnny, and I went to see the fireworks. I live in St. Louis, so we went to the riverfront, and the place was basically packed. There was a concert (Cindy Lauber), but we thought it better to meet random chicks sitting in the plaza.
Getting invitations for friends is a very good way to socialize, and it works well to be able to bring the conversation over to them and make them the center of attention. I got Johnny in the middle of a group of six and a group of three; he liked it.:yes:
Another thing I improved on is isolation. We normally try to isolate directly, but I found a good thing about wingmen is that we can isolate for our friends. Twice, I was able to separate three or four girls from Johnny and his women.
Johnny got a few #s, but wasn't really interested in anyone, but I met this really, really hot chick, (maybe 9.5) and kiss and #closed:rockon:. It was a pretty good night. The fireworks were very cool.