I had a girlfriend for a while but I've been back on the prowl the last couple months. I've gone out three times and gotten numbers every time. My problem is it's never the girl I want. It always winds up being one of the friends. I'm good at initiating convos with groups of girls and having fun with all of them but I can't ever isolate the one I want. I don't know if maybe one chick is basically claiming me and telling her friends stay away. It's possible I'm just subconsciously picking up on their vibes and asking the one I know will say yes.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How to be a sniper instead of a grenadier?
- Thread starter goodfoot
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
PlayHer Man
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Spin plates.. then the women will come onto YOU.
Just having a few women you're banging is enough to boost your ego to epic proportions (even if you're not that into them) and it gives you a very confident, chill, sexy vibe. Its like you smell of sex 24/7 and women pick up on it and get turned on or something.
I don't know.. just spin plates. I say this every day. Spin plates --> Its really the solution to 99% of dating problems... but people don't want to listen.
Just having a few women you're banging is enough to boost your ego to epic proportions (even if you're not that into them) and it gives you a very confident, chill, sexy vibe. Its like you smell of sex 24/7 and women pick up on it and get turned on or something.
I don't know.. just spin plates. I say this every day. Spin plates --> Its really the solution to 99% of dating problems... but people don't want to listen.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Being a sniper is about mastering indications of interest. Women are subtle; men tend to be oblivious to signs that a woman will think are obvious. Then they both go home sad that no one likes them.
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Have you considered that maybe the most attractive girl out of the group is the one that is most likely to be taken? Or even if not taken, the one who most likely has the most/best other options? This is assuming you are going after the prettiest girl though.goodfoot said:
This is possible, but I wouldn't say the girls I wanted were for sure hotter in every instance. It's more of a personal preference. As far as spinning plates goes, I have a couple to work with now. It'll be nice to have 5 chicks in rotation again.zekko said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.