I had a girlfriend for a while but I've been back on the prowl the last couple months. I've gone out three times and gotten numbers every time. My problem is it's never the girl I want. It always winds up being one of the friends. I'm good at initiating convos with groups of girls and having fun with all of them but I can't ever isolate the one I want. I don't know if maybe one chick is basically claiming me and telling her friends stay away. It's possible I'm just subconsciously picking up on their vibes and asking the one I know will say yes.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How to be a sniper instead of a grenadier?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
PlayHer Man
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Spin plates.. then the women will come onto YOU.
Just having a few women you're banging is enough to boost your ego to epic proportions (even if you're not that into them) and it gives you a very confident, chill, sexy vibe. Its like you smell of sex 24/7 and women pick up on it and get turned on or something.
I don't know.. just spin plates. I say this every day. Spin plates --> Its really the solution to 99% of dating problems... but people don't want to listen.
Just having a few women you're banging is enough to boost your ego to epic proportions (even if you're not that into them) and it gives you a very confident, chill, sexy vibe. Its like you smell of sex 24/7 and women pick up on it and get turned on or something.
I don't know.. just spin plates. I say this every day. Spin plates --> Its really the solution to 99% of dating problems... but people don't want to listen.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Being a sniper is about mastering indications of interest. Women are subtle; men tend to be oblivious to signs that a woman will think are obvious. Then they both go home sad that no one likes them.
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Have you considered that maybe the most attractive girl out of the group is the one that is most likely to be taken? Or even if not taken, the one who most likely has the most/best other options? This is assuming you are going after the prettiest girl though.goodfoot said:
This is possible, but I wouldn't say the girls I wanted were for sure hotter in every instance. It's more of a personal preference. As far as spinning plates goes, I have a couple to work with now. It'll be nice to have 5 chicks in rotation again.zekko said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.