I had a girlfriend for a while but I've been back on the prowl the last couple months. I've gone out three times and gotten numbers every time. My problem is it's never the girl I want. It always winds up being one of the friends. I'm good at initiating convos with groups of girls and having fun with all of them but I can't ever isolate the one I want. I don't know if maybe one chick is basically claiming me and telling her friends stay away. It's possible I'm just subconsciously picking up on their vibes and asking the one I know will say yes.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How to be a sniper instead of a grenadier?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PlayHer Man
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Spin plates.. then the women will come onto YOU.
Just having a few women you're banging is enough to boost your ego to epic proportions (even if you're not that into them) and it gives you a very confident, chill, sexy vibe. Its like you smell of sex 24/7 and women pick up on it and get turned on or something.
I don't know.. just spin plates. I say this every day. Spin plates --> Its really the solution to 99% of dating problems... but people don't want to listen.
Just having a few women you're banging is enough to boost your ego to epic proportions (even if you're not that into them) and it gives you a very confident, chill, sexy vibe. Its like you smell of sex 24/7 and women pick up on it and get turned on or something.
I don't know.. just spin plates. I say this every day. Spin plates --> Its really the solution to 99% of dating problems... but people don't want to listen.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Being a sniper is about mastering indications of interest. Women are subtle; men tend to be oblivious to signs that a woman will think are obvious. Then they both go home sad that no one likes them.
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Have you considered that maybe the most attractive girl out of the group is the one that is most likely to be taken? Or even if not taken, the one who most likely has the most/best other options? This is assuming you are going after the prettiest girl though.goodfoot said:
This is possible, but I wouldn't say the girls I wanted were for sure hotter in every instance. It's more of a personal preference. As far as spinning plates goes, I have a couple to work with now. It'll be nice to have 5 chicks in rotation again.zekko said:
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.