"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to be a smooth talker?

PimpDaddy

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how do i become a smooth talker? i never what to say to get in the minds of girls
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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loveorlust

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Watch movies like cruel intentions. The Sebastian character in that movie seems to be a smooth operator with the ladies. Also start complimenting women on their beauty. Soon you'll have the confidence you need for it to come out naturally in you and you'll know exactly what to say to get into a woman's head.

Good luck Player and may you start banging tail like a rock star.
 

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loveorlust said:
Watch movies like cruel intentions. The Sebastian character in that movie seems to be a smooth operator with the ladies.

Good luck Player and may you start banging tail like a rock star.
Good advice. I'm no movie buff, but Sebastian is one of the best dj characters I've ever seen.
 

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hello my friend,

you either have wit or you don't...wit, like humor, is something that is not learned...acquired perhaps, but only to an extend and a very small degree.

all is not lost though...you can always learn a skill etc. to set you apart from your competition.

I would suggest you'd stop trying to develop things like wit and smooth talking because it is simply not possible. Not only that, but people will be able to tell you're trying too hard, and that my friend, is the equvilant of being an idiot....if not worse!!!

It is a mindset and lifestyle that you simply have or you don't

not all of us can be smooth :D

best wishes.
 

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if we're using movies as a guide--james dean in rebel without a cause

hell, james dean period. you can't get smoother than james dean.

speak slow. speak softly. give short, clever answers. smirk.

dude was something else when it came to being cool
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well, regardless of what nighcrawler says and the innate 'inherent' ability to talk to girls
Practise will improve you

How many hours and minutes a week would you say you spend talking to women?

My advice is simple

Increase the amount of time you spend talking to women

Hit on more women, talk to more women, approach more women. Even women who are your friends, just talk to them more.

Personally, I think I'm witty and I think just talking to more women makes you more comfortable around women which makes you more relaxed which makes it easier to be funny/witty/confident.
 

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Hank Moody from Californication. Hitch from Hitch.
 

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How do you run faster? By actually running faster.
How do you lift heavier weights? By lifting heavier weights.
How do you socialize better? By socializing more.
Get the drift?
 

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Observe gentlemen who are good at that and once you start to have a grasp start practicing yourself, start with old waitress if it needs so you wont be nervous and they will give you time and attention being them not used to that.

When you get more confident and comfortable move to harder targets, and keep in mind that the hardest part is to move from 0 to 1 than to 5 to 10 in that kind of ability.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ever talked to a girl (or even a dude for that matter) who you consider yourself superior to?

Bet you were witty, confident etc...

I think half the battle is rewiring your brain to act that way regardless of how the woman looks, acts etc. You need to learn how to regard a HB 9 Model the same way you'd talk to the nerdy librarian HB 5.

Then the smoothness will follow.
 

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The key is to have enough confidence that when you stumble over your words you can keep a smile on your face. Also, to be able to approach anyone, anytime without a planned line.

We convey subliminal status messages. I noticed that after dating a 9 for a few months, other 9's naturally were ready to go out with me, instead of being that dream girl that might.
 

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Read any Tucker Max book to get the basic idea of how he talks to women. Sure, he is a little over the top, but the point is he doesn't care what happens so he approaches everybody.
 
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