Say you've been seeing this girl, or talking to her or whatever and things SEEM like they're going fine. She seems to have interest, etc. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere she ends up in a relationship with some other dude you had no clue about. She didn't give you any reason to think you were competing with someone else (if I knew this I wouldn't even bother) and she shows all the signs of being interested in you. This has been happening to me off and on for years and I've always felt like an idiot afterwards. The funny thing is most of the time these guys they jump into relationships with out of nowhere never seem to last longer then a month or two if that.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How to avoid this?
- Thread starter Robert28
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Not much you can do about that. I've had it happen to me. Girls are selfish and will date 2,3,4 guys at once until they decide which one suits them best, then drop the others or downgrade them to orbit land. But then you drop her and refuse to be an orbiter.