How to avoid negative association?

[xsmagic]

Attraction is simple, it comes naturally with practice. However "negative association" and "emotional tampon" seem to be completely different.

Whenever my girlfriend has family problems or whatnot, of course she comes to me. I learned that I should just agree with whatever and try not to make suggestions, to avoid conflict when she's in a bad mood. But still I feel she associates those negative feelings with me and that I become an emotional tampon at the same time.

How do I NOT end up as the bad guy or the emotional tampon whenever my gf wants to rant or cry on my shoulder?

 

[GetOveIT]

a friend and lover is something that you cant do.

Chose.

 

[xsmagic]

so a gf is something you can't do?

 

[GetOveIT]

so a gf is something you can't do?

Your girlfriend is using you as a emotional tampon, that means youre more a friend than a lover.


I dumped my gf because of that.