"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to ATTRACT women......Part III

bondjamesbond

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Damn cat woke me up.....I'm still half asleep......already on my 3rd cup of coffee........Here goes.....

I've told you about looks and attitude, now you need to know the "How" stuff....

It's easy, really. In fact, it's so simple that it's almost ridiculous.

The answer is in the way you use YOUR EYES!!

Yup, that's it.....you have to use your eyes....

Unless you're blind, you use your eyes to communicate with women more than your mouth.

Ever see any of the old "Dracula" movies? How did he "freeze" his soon-to-be victims? He used a hypnotic stare.

I'm not suggesting that you try a "Dracula" approach.....or that you just stare at a woman like you're the village idiot....

Eye contact can be very intimidating......Police are trained to use it to guage reactions to questions, etc.,....

Direct eye contact with a woman, combined with a nice smile tells a woman "I like what I'm seeing, I am interested in you".....

The reason most guys don't use it is because of fear and shyness. When you look at a woman you don't know and hold eye contact just a little longer than normal it let's the cat out of the bag, so to speak.....

You must do it and not come across as a perverted moron......alot of it is timing....it always worked best for me when I was in "motion"....walking, turning my head directly towards them and smiling....

I'm a married guy.....I don't do this stuff anymore (well, almost never) because it works so well that I don't want the temptation, it's that effective...

Does it work on all women, everywhere, all the time? Of course not. But the ones who look back, taking notice of your eyes and smile, are attracted almost instantly.

Why? Because it's flattering and mesmerizing, that's why! What if some nice looking babe does it to you? You're hooked!

Eye contact with a good smile indicates confidence and self-assurance. Shy people can't do this, their eyes dart around everywhere.

Remember.....use your eyes and smile, it's your God-given weapon......if they look back, and hold it for just a teeny-tiny second too long, you've attracted them!

Next I'll talk about approaching......

Later
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Great stuff about the importance of eyecontacts, man!

Strange...It has been like one and a half years, and still I'm the first to comment on this post.
 
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i'm the second, good post. Makes a lot of sense when you explain the difference between those who are shy and those who aren't.
 

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A girl and I stopped each other in the staircase and looked at each other for a moment. I can't remember if I smiled or not, but she did, and looked down.

Now, I KNOW that she likes me, but if I try asking out a girl at work {grocery store}, won't that get me into trouble?
 

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Originally posted by GuitarOnFire
A girl and I stopped each other in the staircase and looked at each other for a moment. I can't remember if I smiled or not, but she did, and looked down.

Now, I KNOW that she likes me, but if I try asking out a girl at work {grocery store}, won't that get me into trouble?
Yea, I have come to realize a girl (a stranger) who smiles at you definitely means she likes what she sees. Why the hell would you get in trouble? Some places do not like employees getting involved but people do it anyways. Are you really that concerned about losing your job at a grocery store?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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MisterMcGee

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Lol ive been getting looks around campus and havent been taking action. its been a nice confidence booster but i'll start taking action from now on lol
 

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I have found that too much eye contact can have the opposite effect. For instance, when I was younger, I would look right at someones eyes and not blink (contacts) for the duration of the conversation. Many times, girls told me that I was "too intense" and should lighten up with the "eye thing." I will agree that shy people often do not look into your eyes, though they may look at you fleetingly to see if you are paying attention.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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