"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to ask out a hairstylist at work?

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A few weeks ago I got my hair cut. I really liked the stylist. She shared a good bit of personal info and such (not unusual for a hair stylist to be chatty of course), but I couldn't figure out if it was ok to simply ask her out since I was in there as a customer. I have since gotten my hair cut again somewhere else but I pass this shop all the time and I still would at least like the chance for her to shoot me down. Any thoughts on how to ask someone out in this situation?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I would also like to know someone else's experience with this.

If anything, I'll just go for it next time. I always see cute girls when I get my hair cut, I'm sure all I have to do is grab my balls and approach her.
 
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Just like any other hired gun, you have to make her see you as more than someone who brings in money. Be open and personal while you're in the chair, get her to open up about her personal life. When you're done you should know enough about her (i.e. does she have a boyfriend, is she insane) to be comfortable enough to ask her for her number. Just gotta do it.
 
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Only problem with going back there again is the haircut wasn't all that great. Life is risk. Just like in any other situation, you have to strike at the earliest opportunity, because you never know if you're going to get another one.
 
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go get your haircut by her again. after it is finished and you have paid her, you could say something like:

do I have to wait until my hair gets too long to see you again?

!then do not speak! wait for her to answer, which you will obviously get.

if she turns you down, you can always just ask her if it is because you have such a terrible haircut :) if she doesnt find that funny, you wouldnt want to go out with her anyway. you cant lose.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Umm, this is really a difficult one. I hate these situations. You cannot mess up because you will see her again...
 
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