"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HOw to ask her on a day 2 date

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So went out with this woman last wednesday. Sat outside a cafe with a couple of beers. seemed to hit it off. no awkward silences. common interests etc. date ended with a hug and i said i'd call her again.

On the fence about seeing her again but as my diary is a little empty and i have a few days off work thought I'd see if she's up for meeting again. What would be a good opener? Fancy meeting again? Let's meet again? Did you find any new parks lately? IDeas?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"{her name} it was nice meeting you the other day. What night are you free to grab drinks?"

That is what I use, every, single time. The only change I sometimes make is
"I'll be in {her area} tonight let's meet up later"

Even if people say it's not a good line, it doesn't matter because it works. It's direct and to the point, and you will know if she's interested based on her response.

I usually lie when I say I'm in her town for work that day. If a girl makes time on such short notice, that's a good sign.
 

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Starfvcks 64 said:
"{her name} it was nice meeting you the other day. What night are you free to grab drinks?"
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i haven't contacted this woman since the date 9 days ago. do you think that would matter if i used this line?
 

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Why did you wait so long? As a rule of thumb, I set up another date during the first one.
 

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Andre2807 said:
Why did you wait so long? As a rule of thumb, I set up another date during the first one.
Was kind of on the fence about her. take it or leave it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Be direct. Don't try to be entertaining, cute, funny out whatever. Say what you want to say and leave it at that especially over text. Women know a panderer who is trying to entertain them and a man who wants to take them out.

9 days is not too long but you need to ask her out as soon as possible. If she asks why you waited so long, just say you were busy and certainly, do NOT apologize.
 

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I've waited weeks to ask a girl on a 2nd date before. If you don't act like it's a big deal that you waited so long, they typically won't bring it up. So... hit her up and sound excited, like you suddenly found something cool to do and want to take her. Something like...

You: (Make phone call)
Her: (picks up) "Hello?"
You: (with urgency in your voice) "Hey, (name), how are you?"
Her: "Fine..."
You: "Great - hey, quick question: what are you doing on, saaaay, Tuesday or Thursday?"
Her: "Well, I dunno yet... why, what's up?"
You: "Oh, great - well, I just found this new (restaurant, park, activity) on yelp (Yes, actually go on Yelp and look something up) and was wanting to try it out, and I wanted to take you with me, you down to go?"

Assuming she says "Sure, I'd love to," give her a date and time, then hang up and wait until the date meet up to talk to her again. That's pretty much it.
 

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ok. got my day 2 secured. now what to do? you guys know i just want to bang but of course i can't just come out and say this. just meet for a drink and see what happens? or do something more exciting? suggestions on date ideas please.

or shall i just say 'your place or mine?'
 
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