"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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joe45

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ok with u guys do u usually make small talk about the course u both are taking togther and then maybe after a while of just being casual aquintances and nothing more-just the girl u see in class and , ask the girl you like out , or do u guys be freinds first with the girl and then ask her out.
the last time i asked a gal out was the first method made small talk and guess what it blew in my face, i asked her out right after our class to go have a cup of coffee with me and she said no maybe anpother time, 3 days later she told everyone in my class-college i got these smirks and smiles -it was embarassing too considereing the college i go to is small. everyone nows everyone-pretty much. and guess what i didn't even say anyhthing sexual or unappropriate -jsut cas converstions about her courses she was taking
my freind said i scared the girl off by going too fast and asking the girl out right away, as i should have gotten to now her more first as a person.
any thoughts guys what do u guys do if u like a girl in one of ur classes. funny thing is the same girl had 1 class with me in the previous semester and also in other semesters too was always looking at me , she never went up to me and talked to me. i took the glances and looks as interested motions-yea but then why would she say NO then funny hey.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I don't see anything wrong with your approach. I think she probably just wasn't interested for whatever reason. You may have misinterpreted her signs of interest, but no matter what man, keep doing it. If people are smiling and smirking at you for trying to ask a girl out just laugh. It's nothing to be embarrassed about, your a "guy," that's what we have to do in order to make things happen.
 
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man...thats tough, thats why i would only ask a chick out in class only if i was really sure she liked me.If not, then i'd wait till class is over, and ask her out. Seriously, imagine going on a date with a chick on sat. then seeing her in class on monday...seems wierd.
 
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