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lol. I guess young guys need this info so I'll move it to The Archive.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
machoguy123
Banned
ask her POLITELY and with DESPERATION to be your g/f..a don juan like myself would say to ms. right.."oh baby, oh baby, i want you so badly...every minute of my day im thinking of you..and even though u may not have noticed, i bend down and worship the ground you step on..your eyes are so beautiful that they shame the stars in heaven, like daylight does a lamp..so please, pretty please, can i call you my g/f??" believe me man, this line works..but try to act like you must have her and a good helper is to bend down on your knees. good luck man..the don juan power is with you
Trickster_guy_2001
Don Juan
Macho guy.
Great advice. Lol.
But seriously, what if you did it as a joke? Like, being sarcastic to the girl... I'm thinking Eddie Murphy in Nutty Proffessor ("Buddy Love" character)... would it still be a bad choice, or would it get you extra points for having a sarcastic sense of humor?
Great advice. Lol.
But seriously, what if you did it as a joke? Like, being sarcastic to the girl... I'm thinking Eddie Murphy in Nutty Proffessor ("Buddy Love" character)... would it still be a bad choice, or would it get you extra points for having a sarcastic sense of humor?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
jc7875
Don Juan
All the info im gathering from this is leading to not asking a girl out with words.. but let time take its part ? Maybe she will ask you out , or you both can consider it a date in the meantime ?
Vegas Playa
Don Juan
I don't understand a damm thing you're saying, jc7875. Try again when you sober up, dude.
please.... PLEASE dont tell machoguy that he "could make a great DJ." He will take it to his head... he already has the impression that he's a DJ, and he keeps trying to give newbies extraordinarily AFC advice.... in fact... I'm not so sure he was joking in that post....
dj ben2
Senior Don Juan
i must say someone said "you never ask a girl anything unless its to marry i have asked a girl something once with great response (thanks to david de angelo i think)
can i kiss you?
her: umm ok:
cool, maybe next time then :smile:
can i kiss you?
her: umm ok:
cool, maybe next time then :smile:
you guys take this prize and power stuff way to seriously. whats wrong with just asking her or suggesting it? what happened to being the man and taking the first step, or making the first move. half the info on this site contradicts itself, lol my gosh
you keep waiting for her to ask, and that's the reason most of you dont ever have girlfriends.
you keep waiting for her to ask, and that's the reason most of you dont ever have girlfriends."So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Precursor
Don Juan
That was my mindset so i decided to ask myself.Raikojo17 said:
She responded with a hug and a kiss, and i was so happy. But 2 days later, she said she didn't want a relationship, told me to forget about that, and yeah. Just offering my insights.
jc7875
Don Juan
Mods how can you delete my posts in this thread?
MacAvoy
Banned
Why are you so concerned about having this post deleted?jc7875 said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
vagelaras97
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well...if you are at her place there's a way you can ask her!!write her a letter saying how you feel and that you want her to be your girlfriend.Tell her that you must leave and just before you leve give her the letter and ask her to open it when you leave.You'll wait out of the door while she thinks that you left.At the end of the letter you'll be saying:''I'm waiting out of the door for an answer''.When she reads it she'l open the door(give her a big smile).She'll say ''yes'' or ''no''.If she says ''no'' just be confident and don't let it bring you down.Even IF she says ''no'',she'll know that there's a person that likes her.One more thing:SHE WILL LOVE IT!!!!
This is how I did it.
We were out and a little girl said that we looked like a cute couple.
Later on the date I just turned to her and said "You know that little girl said we were a cute couple" and gave her a wink and she knew where I was going with that.
We were out and a little girl said that we looked like a cute couple.
Later on the date I just turned to her and said "You know that little girl said we were a cute couple" and gave her a wink and she knew where I was going with that.
Sophomakhos
Don Juan
You will not ask her to be your girlfriend. She will ask you if she is your girlfriend. That's the way it has usually worked in my experience. Remember, girls think about these things - probably more than you do. I have generally found that, if a girl has been interested in me, she'll ask me fairly soon if we're an item. In fact, the most recent girl I've been dating asked me on our second date if we were a 'thing'. I never even had to suggest it to her.
If you're dating a girl for a while, you should be building up a natural intimacy with her, one that you don't have to explain. In creative writing classes, student novelists are told that they should show rather than tell. That way their reader will be more immersed in the environment and be better able to relate to the story that they're reading about. The same principle holds pretty true with dating women - don't ask her to be your girl, show her that she's your girl.
If you're dating a girl for a while, you should be building up a natural intimacy with her, one that you don't have to explain. In creative writing classes, student novelists are told that they should show rather than tell. That way their reader will be more immersed in the environment and be better able to relate to the story that they're reading about. The same principle holds pretty true with dating women - don't ask her to be your girl, show her that she's your girl.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.