I am in grade 11 and there is this grade 9 girl who I am pretty sure likes me. I have seen her staring at me a lot and I heard her say to her friends that she thinks I'm hot. I obviously want to approach this girl but I only see her in the halls and she is always with friends. I don't have many opportunities to talk to her. How should I approach her? Should I approach her if she is with friends? What if they are in a conversation? How can I make more opportunities to approach her?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to approach this girl?
- Thread starter garfield
- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Aspiring Don Juan
Don Juan
Wanted to add that you must talk to her friends, and win them over. In high school, they normally are the dictating factor whether or not she should go out with you or not. If they like you, they might pressure her into going on that date.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
I'd say you'd have to hope to have a class with her, find her isolated somewhere, or find a buddy who knows one of her friends and have him wing for you.
it's hard enough to approach one girl, let alone a group...
hmmm, I don't ever think "approach a group of girls you don't know" is good advice to someone because well, frankly, if you were the kinda guy who can just walk up to a group of girls you don't know, woo them and get numbers, then you would be here as a master DJ giving advice, as opposed to asking for it.Ruler said:
it's hard enough to approach one girl, let alone a group...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.