I am in grade 11 and there is this grade 9 girl who I am pretty sure likes me. I have seen her staring at me a lot and I heard her say to her friends that she thinks I'm hot. I obviously want to approach this girl but I only see her in the halls and she is always with friends. I don't have many opportunities to talk to her. How should I approach her? Should I approach her if she is with friends? What if they are in a conversation? How can I make more opportunities to approach her?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to approach this girl?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Aspiring Don Juan
Don Juan
Wanted to add that you must talk to her friends, and win them over. In high school, they normally are the dictating factor whether or not she should go out with you or not. If they like you, they might pressure her into going on that date.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
I'd say you'd have to hope to have a class with her, find her isolated somewhere, or find a buddy who knows one of her friends and have him wing for you.
it's hard enough to approach one girl, let alone a group...
hmmm, I don't ever think "approach a group of girls you don't know" is good advice to someone because well, frankly, if you were the kinda guy who can just walk up to a group of girls you don't know, woo them and get numbers, then you would be here as a master DJ giving advice, as opposed to asking for it.Ruler said:
it's hard enough to approach one girl, let alone a group...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.