How to approach the topic of "commited relationship"

[killerasp]

So i have been dating this girl for awhile now (almost 3 months) and things are serious between us. Neither one of us have ever brought up the issue of being in a comitted realtionship (being gf/bf). I really care about her and i feel ready to be in a relationship with her and i want to take the next step with her.

How do you think i should go about talking about the issue? what should i say?

 

[specialed]

3 months is a long time to just date and not have a relationship, i'm surprised that she is still around. No offense to you at all.

They say to wait until she brings something up about a relationship...well for me the first and LAST time i waited for a girl to do that she left me after a month because she thought "she was just some other girl" because i wasn't initiating anything about a relationship.

just bring it up...see what happens.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Actually 3 months isn't a long time. More times than not the fortitude of a relationship isn't determined until the 6 month mark. That's the point when people really start thinking about a viable LTR with their partner. It's the time when both people can look back at enough past experiences with their partner to determine whether going beyond the 6 month mark is worth the the continued effort.

 

[specialed]

just stating from experience is all. and the experience of friends. although i'm 20 and you are 39 heh you got 19 years on me!

 

[rocky_mtn]

You pretty much said it yourself, tell her

I really care about you and i feel ready to be in a relationship and i want to take the next step.

Then ask her if she wants to be your g/f



I agree with others that 3 months is a long time. I'm about to do the same thing but after 1 month.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... heh you got 19 years on me!

Thanks for reminding me... :woo: