So, tonight when a group of friends and I came back from NY, I saw this one chic who was staring at me on the subway. We kept exchanging stares and I tried using one of my charming smiles to get her to display some IOI. I tried some DHV by getting the entire side of the train to be involved in my conversation. Then I tried approaching her, but saying anything right now to her without any eye contact is pretty much impossible since she has her headphones on full blast. What I should have done is that within the 1st seconds of eye contact, directly approach her confidently in a straight line without any signs of doubts or fear. I didn't do that, and had no idea how to save this approach. Any comments?
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How to approach girls on subway with headphones on
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I always thought it was amusing to mouth a conversation directly at her with no sound coming out of your mouth, as if she already has full attention. Obviously she will say "Huh?!" and pull out one of her headphones wondering what you were saying. From there just wing it or for a laugh just give her the end of the sentence right when the headphone comes out: "....why people exhibit that behavior sometimes, you know what I mean?" About 80% of the time, she just laughs and starts talking with me.
"Hey, whatcha listening to ?"
Esp. if she's giving you IOI's but more importantly if you like her
This is also a good check to see if she's a cool girl; if she is she'll look softly and if she turns out to be un-cool it'll feel soo good knowing that you acted on your drive, macho man !
EDIT: Just read the whole "Tried to DHV her"...People who usually think like that are on different track than me but here's my 2 cents nevertheless
Esp. if she's giving you IOI's but more importantly if you like her
This is also a good check to see if she's a cool girl; if she is she'll look softly and if she turns out to be un-cool it'll feel soo good knowing that you acted on your drive, macho man !
EDIT: Just read the whole "Tried to DHV her"...People who usually think like that are on different track than me but here's my 2 cents nevertheless
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ive done this at the gym before once. when i 17 lol.
i mouthed it "ok o my gosh! did you paint those gym shorts on yo ass? coz they look hot enuff for me to wanna grab a bite of yo ass!"
she took her headphones off like "sorry what?"
me" oh um..i was asking how many sets you have to go on this machine, and also you need to get your technique right dont do it that fast"
her "oh yeh ive got 1 more set to go, why is my technique wrong"
me "well you're pulling the handles down from above your head while you're seated but every rep you're getting off the seat and leaning back when u pull back. its called a pulldown not a lean down"
she" hahahahah"
me" ok you do it this time ill place my hand on ur back n make sure ur sittin straight not leaning back" kino!!!!
her" ok"
i didnt get a number but i did see her again the next time and she smiled at me. we talked..it didnt go anywhere..but you know..
if your case
maybe this
me mouthing "nice ass, whose you're surgeon?"
her pulls her headphones down "sorry? what?"
you "you didnt hear the compliment i just gave you?"
her "no, i had my headphones on!"
you "well that sucks! i cant repeat it now"
you"what are you listenin to? nice beats"
her "oh its xxxx by xxx"
you" oh yeah so you're into that genre is it?"
her" yeh all kinds of music really"
you "i dunno much about that band, what is their best track?"
her" xxxxx, its reall good"
you" upbeat or slow?"
her"upbeat/ slow"
you"you got it on ur pod?
her" yeh here listen to it"
you" hey this is good.....i didnt take you for someone who'd listen to this kinda music tho"
her" why? what kinda music do i look like!"
you" i cant quite place it but how much time do you have? this may take a while?!
her " o next stop"
you" how about you put ur number here n we can do this outside of a subway..im creeped out by ppl on subways...wink"
she" cool..here"
im just saying..use what you've got
i mouthed it "ok o my gosh! did you paint those gym shorts on yo ass? coz they look hot enuff for me to wanna grab a bite of yo ass!"
she took her headphones off like "sorry what?"
me" oh um..i was asking how many sets you have to go on this machine, and also you need to get your technique right dont do it that fast"
her "oh yeh ive got 1 more set to go, why is my technique wrong"
me "well you're pulling the handles down from above your head while you're seated but every rep you're getting off the seat and leaning back when u pull back. its called a pulldown not a lean down"
she" hahahahah"
me" ok you do it this time ill place my hand on ur back n make sure ur sittin straight not leaning back" kino!!!!
her" ok"
i didnt get a number but i did see her again the next time and she smiled at me. we talked..it didnt go anywhere..but you know..
if your case
maybe this
me mouthing "nice ass, whose you're surgeon?"
her pulls her headphones down "sorry? what?"
you "you didnt hear the compliment i just gave you?"
her "no, i had my headphones on!"
you "well that sucks! i cant repeat it now"
you"what are you listenin to? nice beats"
her "oh its xxxx by xxx"
you" oh yeah so you're into that genre is it?"
her" yeh all kinds of music really"
you "i dunno much about that band, what is their best track?"
her" xxxxx, its reall good"
you" upbeat or slow?"
her"upbeat/ slow"
you"you got it on ur pod?
her" yeh here listen to it"
you" hey this is good.....i didnt take you for someone who'd listen to this kinda music tho"
her" why? what kinda music do i look like!"
you" i cant quite place it but how much time do you have? this may take a while?!
her " o next stop"
you" how about you put ur number here n we can do this outside of a subway..im creeped out by ppl on subways...wink"
she" cool..here"
im just saying..use what you've got
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
If you must interrupt her (cuz she has headphones on) - then you DO, and do it with confidence...and hesitation from your side (umm..uhh...i..i..h.ey..ey) WILL creep her out, and you are OUT.
Go over the shoulder, sit/stand/walk/run shoulder to shoulder with her...it will keep her comfort levels.
Most of my pickup FRs have been on girls RUNNING on the track, with IPODs ON. Check out my FRs bro.. good luck.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152021
Go over the shoulder, sit/stand/walk/run shoulder to shoulder with her...it will keep her comfort levels.
Most of my pickup FRs have been on girls RUNNING on the track, with IPODs ON. Check out my FRs bro.. good luck.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152021
loving
Senior Don Juan
It seems your problem is how to approach. The best way to approach, from my experience, is to approach.
In truth, there is no other way.
Good luck nexttime
In truth, there is no other way.
Good luck nexttime
espi, nice reply as always. I find that the best way to approach are actions, not words. Eye contact, smile, smirk, wink, a ****y nod in the head upwards, etc, are the best way to open a girl, especially in a club, where you don't need to say a single word to progress from dancing, to making out, to bringing her into the bathroom and...
and daygameguy, pretty awsome pickup.
and daygameguy, pretty awsome pickup.
Any approach is better then not trying however when ever a chick puts on a pair of headphones (which blocks outside conversations) or shades (which blocks eye contact) they have covered key sensors on purpose and they normally would like to be left alone.
A woman who wants to be approached (by you) would normally make it easy for you to approach.
A woman who wants to be approached (by you) would normally make it easy for you to approach.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
Well, you can try taking your headphones off so you can hear her after you say hi.
lol
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