"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to answer "Is she your girlfriend?," etc. while on 1st date

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Below are some questions that I feel might come up when taking a girl out on a first date.

Please give your answers and also critique/edit/change my responses. Especially let me know why some of my responses need improvement so that I can learn to filter bad messages in the future.



Questions for board:



1. Setting: Your out with a new girl at some establishment.

Situation: Someone you know comes by you and your date and asks

“Are you two together?”

answer:Yeah we’re sitting right next to each other.


Other guy’s response: “HaHa. Actually, I meant are you two a couple?”

Answer:Well, by definition a couple is two people, so to answer your question: yes we’re a couple.

2. Setting: All

“Is she your girlfriend”

answer a: “No, she’s my lover.”

answer b:”Maybe, but she’s taken”

answer c (if a girl asks): “Even if she is, I don’t think it would affect a potential female relationship.” “Hey (name of girl I’m with) do you also go out with girls?”

answer d: “Are you writing a report for your high school newspaper?” ( could this be insulting if you say it to someone you know, or someone your friend’s girl)

answer e(if a girl asks): “It shouldn’t matter to you because I’m not going to get with you anyway.”

3.
Setting: All

“How long have you been together”

Answer a:Think for a second, then “Probably longer than you can relate to”

answer b:“For a very long time” in a joking tone

answer c:“We’re been here for 30 minutes” (deferring the question and assuming it referred to how long we’ve been at the establishment)

4. Setting: A familiar establishment. The people there are use to seeing you go here alone.

“Wow, you finally got a girlfriend,” “You finally brought your girl,” etc.

answer:???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Is she your girlfriend?"

If she plays her cards right...
 

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In any of these situations the people who are asking are being busy-body gossips.

Stand up to them and confidently introduce your gal.

Something ****y and funny.

"I'd like to introduce you to Amanda, my future ex-wife"

Get's 'em everytime. :)

They may ask why is she your "ex" wife.

Just laugh and say "things just aren't going to work out"
 
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