Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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like, you're havin a party and some guys in the room start playing together and you're there, sitting and obliged to listen and watch the guys playin, like all the girls there. What could I do in order to shine through ? What kind of status actions canbe taken ? or wha tbehaviour to have if you don't want to be outshined ?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Gee, I never thought about how I made the other guys feel when I do this. The simple answer is to get the girl alone with you and away from them. You don't want to "outshine them' because you'll come across as some kind of clown that lives off of others attention, especially if it's noticable that that's what your trying to accomplish. Not sexy.
Just ask her a simple question "You wanna stay here and listen to these guys?" Just ask that to your girl your macking it.
 

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Originally posted by Vandermast
You don't want to "outshine them' because you'll come across as some kind of clown that lives off of others attention, especially if it's noticable that that's what your trying to accomplish. Not sexy.
good point. The thing is that usually, guys playing, especially if they're good, are something ppl want to see, even more if the whole social group is doin that (watch them playing). But yeah, isolation seems to be the only way out. I'm "afraid" I'm gonna have to face that tonight. Dinnner + show afterwards in a private party.
 

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Learn to play

I play music at parties all the time. It's the best thing to just pull out the guitars and play and have everyone sing. It makes you the group leader and the center of attention, without even trying.. There's not much you can do if everyone else is enjoying the music. Any attempt to "outshine" them will, as mentioned, make you look like a fool.
 

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Originally posted by Vandermast

Just ask her a simple question "You wanna stay here and listen to these guys?" Just ask that to your girl your macking it.
I suggest something more straight forward - instead of giving her the option.

I find it's much easier to tell women to do things than to ask them - they're indecisive little people.

try saying, "come with me" or "let's go to the other room for a bit" or "do you like fcuking?" -- okay, not the last one, but you get the picture... or if you're game is really working, you could try motioning to leave the room and have her ask you where you're going, then simply tell her to follow you... OR just sit tight and wait for the instrument jockeys to shut the hell up.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by a difficult guy
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like, you're havin a party and some guys in the room start playing together and you're there, sitting and obliged to listen and watch the guys playin, like all the girls there. What could I do in order to shine through ? What kind of status actions canbe taken ? or wha tbehaviour to have if you don't want to be outshined ?
Let them finish the set. Go up, compliment them & hang out w/ them for a bit. Then start busting on them and joking around. You're part of the group then and your social value will be just as high. I did that at a club not too long ago w/ the band. I hung out w/ them after the set and it was really interesting to watch the social dynamics behind it.
 

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Originally posted by a difficult guy
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like, you're havin a party and some guys in the room start playing together and you're there, sitting and obliged to listen and watch the guys playin, like all the girls there. What could I do in order to shine through ? What kind of status actions canbe taken ? or wha tbehaviour to have if you don't want to be outshined ?
Rip off your shirt and do a most muscular.
 
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