"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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like, you're havin a party and some guys in the room start playing together and you're there, sitting and obliged to listen and watch the guys playin, like all the girls there. What could I do in order to shine through ? What kind of status actions canbe taken ? or wha tbehaviour to have if you don't want to be outshined ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Gee, I never thought about how I made the other guys feel when I do this. The simple answer is to get the girl alone with you and away from them. You don't want to "outshine them' because you'll come across as some kind of clown that lives off of others attention, especially if it's noticable that that's what your trying to accomplish. Not sexy.
Just ask her a simple question "You wanna stay here and listen to these guys?" Just ask that to your girl your macking it.
 

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Originally posted by Vandermast
You don't want to "outshine them' because you'll come across as some kind of clown that lives off of others attention, especially if it's noticable that that's what your trying to accomplish. Not sexy.
good point. The thing is that usually, guys playing, especially if they're good, are something ppl want to see, even more if the whole social group is doin that (watch them playing). But yeah, isolation seems to be the only way out. I'm "afraid" I'm gonna have to face that tonight. Dinnner + show afterwards in a private party.
 

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Learn to play

I play music at parties all the time. It's the best thing to just pull out the guitars and play and have everyone sing. It makes you the group leader and the center of attention, without even trying.. There's not much you can do if everyone else is enjoying the music. Any attempt to "outshine" them will, as mentioned, make you look like a fool.
 

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Originally posted by Vandermast

Just ask her a simple question "You wanna stay here and listen to these guys?" Just ask that to your girl your macking it.
I suggest something more straight forward - instead of giving her the option.

I find it's much easier to tell women to do things than to ask them - they're indecisive little people.

try saying, "come with me" or "let's go to the other room for a bit" or "do you like fcuking?" -- okay, not the last one, but you get the picture... or if you're game is really working, you could try motioning to leave the room and have her ask you where you're going, then simply tell her to follow you... OR just sit tight and wait for the instrument jockeys to shut the hell up.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by a difficult guy
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like, you're havin a party and some guys in the room start playing together and you're there, sitting and obliged to listen and watch the guys playin, like all the girls there. What could I do in order to shine through ? What kind of status actions canbe taken ? or wha tbehaviour to have if you don't want to be outshined ?
Let them finish the set. Go up, compliment them & hang out w/ them for a bit. Then start busting on them and joking around. You're part of the group then and your social value will be just as high. I did that at a club not too long ago w/ the band. I hung out w/ them after the set and it was really interesting to watch the social dynamics behind it.
 

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Originally posted by a difficult guy
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like, you're havin a party and some guys in the room start playing together and you're there, sitting and obliged to listen and watch the guys playin, like all the girls there. What could I do in order to shine through ? What kind of status actions canbe taken ? or wha tbehaviour to have if you don't want to be outshined ?
Rip off your shirt and do a most muscular.
 
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