"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

how to act when...

Scought

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 11, 2003
Messages
265
Reaction score
2
Location
Portland
I got a question.
What do you do or say when this happens.

Met a girl...few nights later we make out and what not, and she is diggin me wants to call etc.

Next time my boy sees some dude in her arm

Obviously we arent together, talking or dating.

BUt when i go to call h er what do i say?

Never mention it?

say i heard she was with some dude, and if its like that she can stroll?

NOt sure what to do...no one wants to date a girl that is like that, but i am not in a position to get upset of jealous

How would you all bring attention to th is?

Thanks for the help
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

quest

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 15, 2003
Messages
1,176
Reaction score
0
personally, i would ignore it. bone her. and then next her.
however, if you want a LTR with her, you'd be best to scope out who this guy was because it could just be a friend, friends of mine lie in my arms sometimes. get a mutual friend to tell you about it as one of her friends couldn't be trusted.
 

Ginobili

New Member
Joined
Dec 5, 2003
Messages
6
Reaction score
0
I wouldn't bring it up and ignore it.
 

TheNonPedant

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 11, 2004
Messages
77
Reaction score
0
Personally, I would ditch the girl...isn't it obvious she is using you for attention? Please tell me it was obvious...?
 

Mav

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 5, 2004
Messages
20
Reaction score
0
Age
49
Location
Brighton, UK
Ignore it.

a) It could have been innocent
b) There's no way you can bring it up without sounding AFC.
c) You already sound like you're exhibiting symptoms of oneitis.

Call, and make sure you get control of the situation back.


Mav
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Scought

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 11, 2003
Messages
265
Reaction score
2
Location
Portland
True

I will ignore it.

I just know that if i mess around continuosuly with her, inevitably I will get some feelings.

I cant be totally cold with women, and Im sure others have this problem.

It would just suck for things to escalate, and find out she is a tad promiscuous
I have to already know she is a lil freaky since she messed around with me, in a short time frame.

I shouldnt get ahead of myself i may call, and she might not call back
 

white_hype

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 27, 2003
Messages
522
Reaction score
1
CALL HER OUT ON IT!!! and interigate her over every guy she talks to to see "WUT UP WIT DAT BABEZ?"

wtf do you care if a girl you just met hooks up with another guy, only care about this stuff when you are dating her (if you choose to)

just keep in mind this chick COULD be doing other guys (not sure about the arm around the guy) and this should encourage you to get other prospects too
 

Mikelo2k

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 20, 2003
Messages
292
Reaction score
1
Location
Ontario, Canada
Just a reminder, if she's promiscuous then make sure you wear protection :) I'd say use her as a **** buddy mostly, she seems like a good candidate for that sorta thing :D



Mikelo2k:cool:
 

Tao of Steve

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 17, 2002
Messages
159
Reaction score
0
Location
toronto
.

you just met her, so there is no obligation from either of you. just like if you go out with a women once, that does not mean you have to cut out all other dating. when you have only went out with a person once, it is not really your/my buisiness who they date.

if you bring it up, u will look jealous, needy, and seem like you don't go out with many women. just imagine if you went out with a lady once, and she calls u and says 'my friend saw u with someone else', she would appear flaky, and u would loose intrest win her.

remember the words of bart simpson; when with girls 'keep it light and brezzy, thats my motto'.
 

OpenMind

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 8, 2003
Messages
250
Reaction score
1
Age
53
Location
NJ
She is just doing what you should be.... its called dating multiple people... you two aren't exclusive so why should she not be out with a different guy every night of the week? This is exactly what you should be doing and if you were dating multiple women you wouldn't even be concerned about her dating other men.. dont say a word to her about this and go find 5 other women to date! good luck!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Top