"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How time and experiences have changed the way you love

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Hello there mature men!

According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Have you ever thought if for us men, it's the same thing?
That could be different in some ways...

A man can love multiple women in his life, and at the same time, his love changes and grows.
After 1 or 2 or 3 LTR, a few STRs, and a few ONS, I've realized that my concept of love, as far as romantic relationships are concerned, is becoming more and more similar to the one I have for friends and friendships.

It's the same feeling I get when I do my favorite things: being in nature, playing the piano, riding my motorcycle...
A feeling of well-being that makes me give and show joy and love through gestures, kindness, being thoughtful, listening, and helping others. I've also learned to protect this feeling because it's just mine and I don't want toxic people to make me change my behavior.
Also, reading about redpills and similar material helps with knowledge, but also with extinguish this flame that burns with the joy of life.

It's easy to call it bluepills or being a nice guy, and even being disrespected, but the feeling is really different: it's as if you don't care about other people's disrespect, but I can still love them... have you ever had this feeling?
It's your inner self that now thinks this way and isn't influenced.
So I realized that a LTR requires only one thing: giving love and having someone who receives love.

I'm really curious how your love for your life changed with time, expecially after you found out your place in the world, doing things that really makes you happy
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Hey! You're Italian! I'm going to marry an Italian, so I'll be learning all about your country and culture and visiting your homeland in the coming years.

Is it really true that a woman only has one true love in her life, do you personally think? Women are spiritual. And I enjoy entertaining their counsel in regards to relationships and whether Destiny ties into that. I know there are archetypes and roles for them in some thought circles: the soulmate, the twin flame, etc. And I remember David D. once saying that every woman has that one guy who "imprinted on their soul", like the Mythology in Twilight. He is the one who she compares every man she meets too, and they all FAIL to compare to him, or at least her image of him in her mind. That almost feels like God's cruel joke. If a woman losses "the one" (you know, Katy Perry wrote a song about it), isn't she damned for life? Won't she spend the rest of her life pining for him and kicking herself for losing him? And can you think of a more agonizing and tormenting fate for a woman than that?
 

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According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Is that what he says? I don't believe that. I mean she may have a favorite, but I don't buy that a woman can only fall in love once. They can fall in love multiple times, just like guys can.
 

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've been infatuated by dozens of women, but I have ever only truly loved one. She gave me children too. And if they knew their mother's only real love was me too, how special would that be for and to them? I want to meet them, and I imagine most if not all of them want to meet me too. Wouldn't that be riveting to watch? You might get real life scenes like Nicole and her dad in Crazy/Beautiful (one of two movies that have made me cry).
 
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