"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How time and experiences have changed the way you love

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Hello there mature men!

According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Have you ever thought if for us men, it's the same thing?
That could be different in some ways...

A man can love multiple women in his life, and at the same time, his love changes and grows.
After 1 or 2 or 3 LTR, a few STRs, and a few ONS, I've realized that my concept of love, as far as romantic relationships are concerned, is becoming more and more similar to the one I have for friends and friendships.

It's the same feeling I get when I do my favorite things: being in nature, playing the piano, riding my motorcycle...
A feeling of well-being that makes me give and show joy and love through gestures, kindness, being thoughtful, listening, and helping others. I've also learned to protect this feeling because it's just mine and I don't want toxic people to make me change my behavior.
Also, reading about redpills and similar material helps with knowledge, but also with extinguish this flame that burns with the joy of life.

It's easy to call it bluepills or being a nice guy, and even being disrespected, but the feeling is really different: it's as if you don't care about other people's disrespect, but I can still love them... have you ever had this feeling?
It's your inner self that now thinks this way and isn't influenced.
So I realized that a LTR requires only one thing: giving love and having someone who receives love.

I'm really curious how your love for your life changed with time, expecially after you found out your place in the world, doing things that really makes you happy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Hey! You're Italian! I'm going to marry an Italian, so I'll be learning all about your country and culture and visiting your homeland in the coming years.

Is it really true that a woman only has one true love in her life, do you personally think? Women are spiritual. And I enjoy entertaining their counsel in regards to relationships and whether Destiny ties into that. I know there are archetypes and roles for them in some thought circles: the soulmate, the twin flame, etc. And I remember David D. once saying that every woman has that one guy who "imprinted on their soul", like the Mythology in Twilight. He is the one who she compares every man she meets too, and they all FAIL to compare to him, or at least her image of him in her mind. That almost feels like God's cruel joke. If a woman losses "the one" (you know, Katy Perry wrote a song about it), isn't she damned for life? Won't she spend the rest of her life pining for him and kicking herself for losing him? And can you think of a more agonizing and tormenting fate for a woman than that?
 

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According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Is that what he says? I don't believe that. I mean she may have a favorite, but I don't buy that a woman can only fall in love once. They can fall in love multiple times, just like guys can.
 

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I've been infatuated by dozens of women, but I have ever only truly loved one. She gave me children too. And if they knew their mother's only real love was me too, how special would that be for and to them? I want to meet them, and I imagine most if not all of them want to meet me too. Wouldn't that be riveting to watch? You might get real life scenes like Nicole and her dad in Crazy/Beautiful (one of two movies that have made me cry).
 
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