"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How time and experiences have changed the way you love

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Hello there mature men!

According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Have you ever thought if for us men, it's the same thing?
That could be different in some ways...

A man can love multiple women in his life, and at the same time, his love changes and grows.
After 1 or 2 or 3 LTR, a few STRs, and a few ONS, I've realized that my concept of love, as far as romantic relationships are concerned, is becoming more and more similar to the one I have for friends and friendships.

It's the same feeling I get when I do my favorite things: being in nature, playing the piano, riding my motorcycle...
A feeling of well-being that makes me give and show joy and love through gestures, kindness, being thoughtful, listening, and helping others. I've also learned to protect this feeling because it's just mine and I don't want toxic people to make me change my behavior.
Also, reading about redpills and similar material helps with knowledge, but also with extinguish this flame that burns with the joy of life.

It's easy to call it bluepills or being a nice guy, and even being disrespected, but the feeling is really different: it's as if you don't care about other people's disrespect, but I can still love them... have you ever had this feeling?
It's your inner self that now thinks this way and isn't influenced.
So I realized that a LTR requires only one thing: giving love and having someone who receives love.

I'm really curious how your love for your life changed with time, expecially after you found out your place in the world, doing things that really makes you happy
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Hey! You're Italian! I'm going to marry an Italian, so I'll be learning all about your country and culture and visiting your homeland in the coming years.

Is it really true that a woman only has one true love in her life, do you personally think? Women are spiritual. And I enjoy entertaining their counsel in regards to relationships and whether Destiny ties into that. I know there are archetypes and roles for them in some thought circles: the soulmate, the twin flame, etc. And I remember David D. once saying that every woman has that one guy who "imprinted on their soul", like the Mythology in Twilight. He is the one who she compares every man she meets too, and they all FAIL to compare to him, or at least her image of him in her mind. That almost feels like God's cruel joke. If a woman losses "the one" (you know, Katy Perry wrote a song about it), isn't she damned for life? Won't she spend the rest of her life pining for him and kicking herself for losing him? And can you think of a more agonizing and tormenting fate for a woman than that?
 

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According to Desdinova's theory, a woman can only love one man in her life, which means that the men who come after, they will only be companions to her and not her true lover, who, in reality, is the one who has eluded her and whom she always thinks about...
Is that what he says? I don't believe that. I mean she may have a favorite, but I don't buy that a woman can only fall in love once. They can fall in love multiple times, just like guys can.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've been infatuated by dozens of women, but I have ever only truly loved one. She gave me children too. And if they knew their mother's only real love was me too, how special would that be for and to them? I want to meet them, and I imagine most if not all of them want to meet me too. Wouldn't that be riveting to watch? You might get real life scenes like Nicole and her dad in Crazy/Beautiful (one of two movies that have made me cry).
 
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