"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How the hell should I respond?

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Had some interest in this girl a while back.

Long story short: nothing really came out of it.

Deleted her from social networking sites, etc.

A few days ago got a random text from her: "Why did you delete me off Facebook, ass?"

Still haven't responded and I don't know if I should.

Ideas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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bridgetoofar said:
Had some interest in this girl a while back.

Long story short: nothing really came out of it.

Deleted her from social networking sites, etc.

A few days ago got a random text from her: "Why did you delete me off Facebook, ass?"

Still haven't responded and I don't know if I should.

Ideas?
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I got a killer line up my sleeve in these situations.

Just say: "do I know you?". If she's an AW, that line drives them nuts and they will go into a self-righteous tirade like only a woman could!
 
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LOL, that does seem like a strange thing to do.

As far as a response, how about: "Dunno, I suppose u can add me back ;)". If she does, you've got the frame and can take it from there.

The way to fail this encounter is to add her back yourself.
 
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@dap as soon as she found out she already sent me a friend request trying to add me back.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Then respond: "I dunno. Should I accept ur request? ;)"

Make her say yes.

Edit: In general, I wouldn't delete people from Fb. Seems kind of reactionary. If you don't want to see their shiit anymore, just block them from your newsfeed.
 
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Thought you were gonna stalk me.
 
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"ass??? well if you are offering ;-) "
 
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Easy, you knock her down with the truth. Tell her "I don't like keeping people on my list that don't talk to me".

The attention whoring from girls on social media sites is out of hand. Fųckin A!
 
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VladPatton said:
Easy, you knock her down with the truth. Tell her "I don't like keeping people on my list that don't talk to me".
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Seems petty and reactionary = bad idea.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bridgetoofar said:
Had some interest in this girl a while back.

Long story short: nothing really came out of it.

Deleted her from social networking sites, etc.

A few days ago got a random text from her: "Why did you delete me off Facebook, ass?"
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This is tricky, you can't get emotional in texts but she swore at you, where is Harry W when you need him.

I would stay away from anything ****y and funny. Perhaps a text back "Watch your language when you are talking to me. You ignored my calls a while back, didn't see any reason to keep you on."
 
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