"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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how the hell do you meet new people?

kartofel

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my town is small and women in their 20s are leaving it in droves to much larger towns

clubs are 2/3 empty every weekend

there are no sport centers

there were 2 salsa clubs both are almost broke since they got less than 10 people, I joined them in vain

all of my friends left town and I'm too broke to do the same

I'm not going to asskiss my way into some religious organisation for poon

and I tried online dating and in my town it's like ugly obese women over 35 with a child at best

and meetup.com does not exist in my country

any suggestions please? besides moving away since I can't afford it right now and if you never had sex with a woman please don't answer this thread, I want real solutions not theory
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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kartofel said:
I'm overwhelmed by your answers pls stop posting
Your town is a ghost town and you're too broke to move.

What else is there to say?

Are there no schools or colleges you can hang out?
 

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Your town is a ghost town and you're too broke to move.

What else is there to say?

Are there no schools or colleges you can hang out?
31 year old guy lurking and hitting on high school women? are you mentally sane?

and yes there is one university, but it's not a real university people just meet up there for the exams otherwise the building is empty and when they get the diploma they have to go to another town for the final exam
 

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kartofel said:
31 year old guy lurking and hitting on high school women? are you mentally sane?

and yes there is one university, but it's not a real university people just meet up there for the exams otherwise the building is empty and when they get the diploma they have to go to another town for the final exam
Lol. Beggars can't be choosers. :crackup:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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solution 1:
find job.
get moniez.
leave town.

solution 2:
porn

solution 3:
visit a wh0re

solution 4:
go on facebook, find the hotties in your region, message them ...take it from there.

solution 5 :
stop giving a fvck about people,grab a sack,stick, some quality weed and hermit it out in the mountains

there
 

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@switch

solution 1:
find job.
get moniez.
leave town.
by the time I got the money I'll be over 40, you expect me to be sexless for 10 years


solution 2:
porn
o'rly


solution 3:
visit a wh0re
even hookers left my town, the last time I fvcked a pro I had to travel 80 miles for it


solution 4:
go on facebook, find the hotties in your region, message them ...take it from there.
useless, most people only update their profile once every 3 months, even though I managed to get a date with a waitress, than her boss was trying to beat the sh*t out of me, since she used me up to make him jealous


solution 5 :
stop giving a fvck about people,grab a sack,stick, some quality weed and hermit it out in the mountains
you can't even buy weed here
 

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Yeah since I don't have that many friends, I have a very small social circle its hard for me to go out often and consistently, yes I know that women are everywhere, it's just a matter of knowing how to make something happen in any environment where they are besides bars or clubs even though I have never had a one night stand from a bar before or club, mostly me and my friends go to the movies a lot, but yeah how else do you recommend going out more and putting yourself out there more in order to meet women? I tried online dating but the odds are against me since I am an average guy
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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start a local group. am dram, church, anything. if you build it, they will come.
 

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The main problem is your mindset.

Why will it take you almost 9 years to save up some money?

If you want something bad enough, you'll make it happen.

I realize your venting, but your playing the victim card right now.

If you get a decent job & save $$$ each month, there's no reason why you shouldn't be able to move out in a year or less.










PIMP
 

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Learn a trade and get the hell out of town.

You are 31. How the hell are you broke AND skill-less?!

I think you need to get your priorities straight.
 

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The only quick solution I can give short of moving is to take a trip to the nearest city that has lots of girls to meet. Maybe if you have a buddy you could carpool. Let's say you make it to the city's nightclubs and meet a girl. Usually you can go back to her place, seal the deal and make it back home however you got to the city or whatever way is most convenient.

Now ideally if you had money you might want to get a hotel and spend the whole weekend in the city.Maybe look into couchsurfing.com to find someone who will host you for a weekend. I've heard people even meet others that way.

For example, I live in the suburbs. There's no desirable girls around me to meet. But, I just travel the 7-10 miles to downtown or to wherever in the city that has a better crowd of girls. You may have to just travel further.
 

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You talk to them. Look for people with common interests.
I talk to every one. I grew up white all white class middle people.

I talk to black people, mexicans, all sorts.

Now these people, I don't continue to talk to them. Its almost like a one serving friend, its how I do it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I know the struggle of not being able to meet anyone in my town. I live in the smallest town in my state, and on the off chance that I do meet someone new, they usually are a bit odd and quite frankly, I don't do odd.

What I do is spend alot of my time in the city besides my town. Its pretty big, and the downtown area is ALWAYS populated. See if there are any larger cities near your town, and find the most populated area (malls, stores, universities, downtown, etc).
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solution 1:
find job.
get moniez.
leave town.

by the time I got the money I'll be over 40, you expect me to be sexless for 10 years
Women/dating should not be a priority in your life given the information above
 

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WTID said:
Women/dating should not be a priority in your life given the information above
Yeah unfortunately men are supposed to make boring things in life more important than women
 

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kartofel said:
@switch



by the time I got the money I'll be over 40, you expect me to be sexless for 10 years




o'rly




even hookers left my town, the last time I fvcked a pro I had to travel 80 miles for it




useless, most people only update their profile once every 3 months, even though I managed to get a date with a waitress, than her boss was trying to beat the sh*t out of me, since she used me up to make him jealous




you can't even buy weed here
so what? you prefer to never get laid then hold for 10 years? also please just work well or find a job in another town then move, anotehr thing you can try is since its a small town go to the next one, normally you should have one or 2 others towns to go about.

also please stop finding excuses for how hard it is, or you do it what you should or you don't
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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