How the hell do you get laid in college?

[Maxtro]

I have been going to a Jr. College for a long time and I've gotten nothing from it. The furthest I've managed to get with girls is being classroom buddies. Which basically means that I only see them in class and maybe walked with them a bit afterwards. I've done that with a few girls and I don't even know how I manged to get that far with them. Also the girls that I do, do that with don't really give a damn about me. I have never actually had a girl wait for me and they never say anything if I don't talk to or walk with them. Most likely it seems that they only tolerate my presence and not enjoy it, maybe even prefer that I wasn't around?

The big question that I have not been able to answer is; How to I start banging the cuties that I see in class?

It's taken me a long time to finally be able to talk to anybody no matter how cute they are so I'm way behind in the social skills level that I should have. So now I can talk to anybody, I still don't have a clue what to talk about or how to bridge the gap between acquaintance and friend. But my goal is not to become friends, unless their will be benefits.

Answers to likely questions.

It's a small Jr. college campus. Little to no activities on campus.
I'm not part of any clubs but nobody else is.
I do not have a social network and I never hear of parties.
My self-confidence isn't the greatest. Which is most likely attributed to a complete lack of success with girls since I was 12

I will be going to a bigger university in August but I don't think it will be any easier to get girls.

 

[JackBauer24]

If you live on campus in the university, you will meet women and get laid. You're living together with them. No bs phone games, and they don't have other prospects unless they have some AFC long-distance boyfriend. You're they're option. Unless you're butt-ugly, which you probably aren't, even if you're shy, you'll meet girls.

 

[ChapStick]

Man.. Just make friends with those chicks in your classroom. Be a sociable guy and get numbers, then ask them out.. I have used the "Let's exchange numbers in-case you miss a day or I miss a day. We can help each other out."

Ask her for help on something down the line, then turn it into a conversation to, "So I'm doing so and so this weekend, you should come!"

Good luck bro. I too go to a community college. Study groups formed in classes are another way I've met with some hotties. I know Community College is tough, but look at it this way.. If you get fail some approaches at this college, you're moving to the other university soon anyways..

 

[ValleyDJing]

Show up.

 

[Tear Gas]

sit next to some broad...start talking to her/rapport..then just ask her if she wants to have coffee sometime. If yes, say what about after class? or just get her number...pretty easy

or you can do what i do? (guys with balls) just approach random hotties and say "excuse me, what's your name?" "oh, HB10 i just thought you were cute and had to meet you" then do the samething...

you have nothing to lose, just do what you can while you're still in college. youll regret it later..

 

[Microphone Fiend]

hang around on campus, find a spot with an influx of people coming and going and post up. Places on campus are heavily populated for me (and possibly you) are
- Computer rooms
- Cafeterias
- Coffee Shop/Coffee Vendors
- Public Transit Stop @ school
- Heavily populated hallways
- Grassy areas where people lay out

I would advise to stay away from the class atmosphere for the most part coz it makes for awkward times if things go sour and some people are real focused on their work and wont talk to you.

 

[Tear Gas]

a line i like to use in class is "i like those shoes.." then shell be like "oh, thanks!" then say "yea my ex had a similar pair" then start talking about class/rapport etc..

this makes you look like some dude that knows style (chicks dig that) plus it shows that you are someone that a girl would actually date (makes her feel more comfortable) ahhaha

 

[Maxtro]

If you live on campus in the university, you will meet women and get laid. You're living together with them. No bs phone games, and they don't have other prospects unless they have some AFC long-distance boyfriend. You're they're option. Unless you're butt-ugly, which you probably aren't, even if you're shy, you'll meet girls.

Unfortunately I don't think I'll be living on campus. I might be but even if I am that is several months from now. The LDR thing is bullshit but I know and I am after a girl who is doing it now but I don't know how to get her. I have "met" girls but thats basically where I'm at.

Man.. Just make friends with those chicks in your classroom. Be a sociable guy and get numbers, then ask them out.. I have used the "Let's exchange numbers in-case you miss a day or I miss a day. We can help each other out."

Ask her for help on something down the line, then turn it into a conversation to, "So I'm doing so and so this weekend, you should come!"

Good luck bro. I too go to a community college. Study groups formed in classes are another way I've met with some hotties. I know Community College is tough, but look at it this way.. If you get fail some approaches at this college, you're moving to the other university soon anyways..

I have thought about doing the phone number exchange thing. But of course I have to over analyze when and how to do it. Should I just ask my target or get everybody around me also? Any good way to ask? I'm afraid that the chick will think that I'm hitting on her and I have not had good experiences with girls who knew I was into them.

I've only been in this semester for one week and I really want to get some action ASAP. I don't want to wait until August.

sit next to some broad...start talking to her/rapport..then just ask her if she wants to have coffee sometime. If yes, say what about after class? or just get her number...pretty easy

or you can do what i do? (guys with balls) just approach random hotties and say "excuse me, what's your name?" "oh, HB10 i just thought you were cute and had to meet you" then do the samething...

you have nothing to lose, just do what you can while you're still in college. youll regret it later..

Hmm so you are suggesting taking them out to coffee relatively soon after meeting them. Thats an interesting concept. When is the best time to ask? Start, middle or towards the end of class?

I would advise to stay away from the class atmosphere for the most part coz it makes for awkward times if things go sour and some people are real focused on their work and wont talk to you.

I thought the class atmosphere was the easiest place to meet and talk to people. You've already got a thing in common with that person. But then you're limited to only talking to them in the short time before and after class.

I don't have a clue how you would even start talking to somebody outside of class. At least in class you know of each other, outside of class your strangers.

 

[zinc64]

I have been going to a Jr. College for a long time and I've gotten nothing from it. The furthest I've managed to get with girls is being classroom buddies. Which basically means that I only see them in class and maybe walked with them a bit afterwards. I've done that with a few girls and I don't even know how I manged to get that far with them. Also the girls that I do, do that with don't really give a damn about me. I have never actually had a girl wait for me and they never say anything if I don't talk to or walk with them. Most likely it seems that they only tolerate my presence and not enjoy it, maybe even prefer that I wasn't around?

The big question that I have not been able to answer is; How to I start banging the cuties that I see in class?

It's taken me a long time to finally be able to talk to anybody no matter how cute they are so I'm way behind in the social skills level that I should have. So now I can talk to anybody, I still don't have a clue what to talk about or how to bridge the gap between acquaintance and friend. But my goal is not to become friends, unless their will be benefits.

Answers to likely questions.

It's a small Jr. college campus. Little to no activities on campus.
I'm not part of any clubs but nobody else is.
I do not have a social network and I never hear of parties.
My self-confidence isn't the greatest. Which is most likely attributed to a complete lack of success with girls since I was 12

I will be going to a bigger university in August but I don't think it will be any easier to get girls.

Easy...go to some parties and make some friends. Also, join some clubs. But it sounds liek the real problem is that you are not having fun. If you are having fun in college then girls shouldn't be much of a problem. Whenever I go out with some friends and am just drinking and having plain fun girls are attracted to me. Whenever, I go out and am thinking man...how am I gonna get laid tonight instead of just relaxing and having fun..I don't have too much success. Classroom buddies??? Dude **** that, I ignored most girls in my classes in college unless I got a lot of signs of interests. Classes are for learning.

 

[Jitterbug]

sit next to some broad...start talking to her/rapport..then just ask her if she wants to have coffee sometime. If yes, say what about after class? or just get her number...pretty easy

Why "some time"? Asking that just sounds weak and will likely get an awkward response, i.e a no, because it's pretty obvious that he's asking them out in a weak way. I used to ask similar questions and they never worked, or I'd just get flakes.

If he's in the same class with them, after class, he can just tell them that he's going to get a coffee or grab some lunch, and ask them if they want to join him. Being specific about the activity you want them to come along with you, and the likelihood of getting a yes is a lot higher, in my experience. It demonstrates to some extent that you can lead. It's also less stressful for them, because if they say yes to a vague "let's go for a cofffee sometimes", they're basically making a commitment to a date (with no specific date) with some guy they barely know and not exactly sure what he wants.

Hmm so you are suggesting taking them out to coffee relatively soon after meeting them. Thats an interesting concept. When is the best time to ask? Start, middle or towards the end of class?

Talk about something at the start of the class (favourite TV shows, current events, whatever you can think of that is semi-interesting), then towards the end, tell them that you're gonna go get some coffee or lunch, and tell them to come along.

There's no club around campus? That's strange. No gym even? There must be a few. You should dig around and find them. Join one or two and you'll get your social network going.

I don't have a clue how you would even start talking to somebody outside of class. At least in class you know of each other, outside of class your strangers.

Oh dear, you need to practice some social skills. If you have problems talking to strangers, next time you buy something from a shop or a supermarket, or get a haircut, try striking up a conversation with the ones serving you. Could simply be a "how's your day been?", "got long to go in your shift? The weather is gorgeous outside", or some random comments on whatever you're buying. Talking to strangers is similar. You need to be more aware of your surroundings to find some context and hints for an opener. Practice on old people strolling along in the park first, if needed.

 

[Maxtro]

If he's in the same class with them, after class, he can just tell them that he's going to get a coffee or grab some lunch, and ask them if they want to join him. Being specific about the activity you want them to come along with you, and the likelihood of getting a yes is a lot higher, in my experience. It demonstrates to some extent that you can lead. It's also less stressful for them, because if they say yes to a vague "let's go for a coffee sometimes", they're basically making a commitment to a date (with no specific date) with some guy they barely know and not exactly sure what he wants.

There is a chick that I have been wanting to ask to have lunch with me but I never get around to it. I'm basically terrified that she would figure out that I'm interested in her and that she would hate me.

Talk about something at the start of the class (favourite TV shows, current events, whatever you can think of that is semi-interesting), then towards the end, tell them that you're gonna go get some coffee or lunch, and tell them to come along.

Whats a good way to get a conversation going? Remember my social skills suck so I'll be starting with Hi.

There's no club around campus? That's strange. No gym even? There must be a few. You should dig around and find them. Join one or two and you'll get your social network going.

The campus is in a small suburb and there are no dance clubs near by. I'm not sure you would get a social network by working out.

Oh dear, you need to practice some social skills. If you have problems talking to strangers, next time you buy something from a shop or a supermarket, or get a haircut, try striking up a conversation with the ones serving you. Could simply be a "how's your day been?", "got long to go in your shift? The weather is gorgeous outside", or some random comments on whatever you're buying. Talking to strangers is similar. You need to be more aware of your surroundings to find some context and hints for an opener. Practice on old people strolling along in the park first, if needed.

I don't have problems talking to strangers but my point was that I think it would be easier to build a relationship with a person in class than some random person I met somewhere.

 

[Jitterbug]

There is a chick that I have been wanting to ask to have lunch with me but I never get around to it. I'm basically terrified that she would figure out that I'm interested in her and that she would hate me.

Why would anyone hate a person who likes him/her? As long as you don't behave like a stalker, you'll be fine. F'in hell, men like women and women like men. That's natural and there's nothing to be ashamed of.

Whats a good way to get a conversation going? Remember my social skills suck so I'll be starting with Hi.

Practice, practice, practice. Starting with a Hi is the most popular way and there's nothing wrong with that.

Acquire as many hobbies and interests as you can, then you'll have plenty to talk about.

The campus is in a small suburb and there are no dance clubs near by. I'm not sure you would get a social network by working out.

Any local band? Festival? Book club? Sports?

You meet people at a gym. You'll need spotters for weight training. You'll meet people in group fitness classes.

I don't have problems talking to strangers but my point was that I think it would be easier to build a relationship with a person in class than some random person I met somewhere.

A person in your class is a stranger at the start.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Your frame of mind is not right! Men don't get laid (are you a woman?) - laid is a passive state - men are not passive, we are the aggressors - we lay women - thus women get laid!!!!! Unless you are a pervert then never use that word!! Get the language, your frame of mind, right!!!

 

[Bible_Belt]

I still don't have a clue what to talk about or how to bridge the gap between acquaintance and friend.

Common ground is the answer. You have to have something in common, or else there is no reason to talk. Dealing with women is the common ground we share here, which is fueling this conversation. Find something you both like, then you have something to talk about and a reason to meet outside of school.

 

[MikeEdward1973]

Personally, I would suggest looking into a fraternity when you go to the larger school. You're going to be a bit older, but that's ok.

 

[DonJuan11]

It's taken me a long time to finally be able to talk to anybody no matter how cute they are so I'm way behind in the social skills level that I should have. So now I can talk to anybody, I still don't have a clue what to talk about or how to bridge the gap between acquaintance and friend. But my goal is not to become friends, unless their will be benefits.

I don't understand how people can get accepted into college when they ask
questions like this. Regardless, how many times have we been over this?

It's a small Jr. college campus. Little to no activities on campus.

Ok, what do you want us tell you? Wave a magic wand and the activities will magically appear?

I'm not part of any clubs but nobody else is.

Well someone is doing something right because I think the girls at your college are getting laid fast and furious.

I do not have a social network and I never hear of parties.

Let me get some magic beans, maybe we can make it happen at sosuave for you.

My self-confidence isn't the greatest. Which is most likely attributed to a complete lack of success with girls since I was 12.

Ok I'll get you 4 magic beans, but have to eat them with a meal and your confidence will start growing.


Sometimes I think WTF, is this a DJ site or a pity site and we are all expected to be psychologists? We've told everyone the same things over and over and over again but for some reason, its not sinking in. Welcome to the world of ADD.

 

[Master Bates]

Your frame of mind is not right! Men don't get laid (are you a woman?) - laid is a passive state - men are not passive, we are the aggressors - we lay women - thus women get laid!!!!! Unless you are a pervert then never use that word!! Get the language, your frame of mind, right!!!

goddammit just shutup.

 

[Last Man Standing]

goddammit just shutup.

The Homo Devil hates truth, and he cries out in anguish!! Die Devil!! DIE!!!

 

[Jitterbug]

Maxtro, you've been here for nearly 4 years now. Maybe you should've read the DJ Bible, the thousands of useful advices in the forum and practiced them?

I've only registered this year but I've been a reader for some time. This site is a goldmine, but you need to do something with the gold you get here. Sitting around rubbing your arse with the golden nuggets won't create any magic.

 

[Vanilla]

Personally, I would suggest looking into a fraternity when you go to the larger school. You're going to be a bit older, but that's ok.

It worked for me. I'm in the EXACT same situation as he is. All I do is commute to the school. I wasn't in any clubs, didn't go to any parties, and only had a handful of classmates that I talked to occasionally. I could only rely on online dating sites to help me out, which didn't help at all.

Joining a frat, for me, brings out your confidence when you're out drinking, you'll go out more, and gives you alot of funny stories to tell.