"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How the fcuk do I get over so many rejections?
- Thread starter Viking25
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I am hopeless and I am afraid that I will never get a gf. I have never had one. Only casual dating.
At 28 you can't expect it to be easy to make an 18-19 y.o. into a GF. Not saying there's anything wrong with it or that it isn't done ocassionally, but girls that young aren't looking, and aren't usually good candidates, to be BF/GF especially with a guy 10 years older. I'd have a hard time believ ing you could tell an 18 year old girl you're 28 and she not think you're too old and think it's weird. Girls under about 25 like a guy to be her same age or within 5 years of age at least. It sucks but age and looks are a big factor and a big hurdle to overcome whether or not some want to believe it or not.4. I am 28...and I still hit on 18-19 y.o..that's the age I like.
I think if you want something longterm it'd help to meet girls 21up.
Post a pic. Let us see what your typical appearance is.
Who are you going after? Random women?
What are your interests? These are often a hook.
Most women are already in some relationship already. You can't expect them to ditch just because you are you.
You do have to get lucky in a sense but there are a lot of single women out there and lots of women in relationships that are dissatisfied.
Your biggest problem is probably the problem almost every guy has: YOU THINK YOU CAN READ MINDS. You are taking rejection as a rejection of YOU. In fact, they might find you attractive but are too dissed or busy or afraid to do anything about it. Never tie your concept of yourself to their behavior.
Yapper said:Holy Moses. You make chasing tail sound like a gym workout routine. Enough sets and your biceps will be bulging through your small T.
Listen, buddy, there's no way you can go 225 approaches and only get 3 numbers and not be either just horrendous looking or doing something horribly wrong.
Its actually similiar in concept (enough sets won't have your "biceps bulging through your T" though). As Tyler says in foundations, you decide what days you'll be going out, and how many women you'll be approaching ahead of time, then stick to it.
Viking your obviously not meeting enough women and haven't gone through just a basic learning phase of going out for a period of time and doing mass approaches. As a bare min if you promised to go out for 2nights a week and talk to 10 women a night for 6months, you would really thank yourself.
BAMBU
Don Juan
i am literally wordless
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Stop keeping a fvcking running tally! Your effort is best used by learning from each interaction and making appropriate adjustments. What exactly have you learned? What is it that makes you so successful online that you can carry over?Viking25 said:...I approached around 225 girls in 3 months and had almost zero results...
Anybody who comes to this site will have trouble giving off the right vibe I can tell you that.
He might as well do something that will work for him rather then bothering girls everytime he sees them on the street.
He should just start with getting girls through friends. Then he can mabye try talking up strangers.
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
I respect the guy who had what it takes to do 225 approaches and failed more than this guy who only does one a month. I think u have been given pretty good advice from everyone, so also try some of the things they told u and Best of luck on ur new start.
That's strange because I'm 5'6 and while that is short, it's never been a problem for me. That's why I always find it humorous that chicks I've met in the past who were "taller" than me were still interested.wutangfinancial said:I'm 5'8 and I get rejected because I'm short ALL the time,even by girls that think I'm really cute.
I simply can't believe that a guy who is 5'8 has trouble because of his height. That's not even short really, it's average. 6'0 is the beginning of tall...
How do you know it's specifically because of your height? Do they actually tell you?I'm 5'8 and I get rejected because I'm short ALL the time,even by girls that think I'm really cute.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So cant really give advice on how to approach except to be confident in the way you look (physically) because well you cant change your height and well you gotta learn to be comfortable with it, that's my best advice for you.
Also everyone out there correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it wouldn't hurt to use that as an advantage like to make a "joke" about it if the girl is taller than you, not really make fun of that, just make something funny out of it. Well I think that could work also but then again I could be terrible wrong.
Anyways good luck