Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I am hopeless and I am afraid that I will never get a gf. I have never had one. Only casual dating.
At 28 you can't expect it to be easy to make an 18-19 y.o. into a GF. Not saying there's anything wrong with it or that it isn't done ocassionally, but girls that young aren't looking, and aren't usually good candidates, to be BF/GF especially with a guy 10 years older. I'd have a hard time believ ing you could tell an 18 year old girl you're 28 and she not think you're too old and think it's weird. Girls under about 25 like a guy to be her same age or within 5 years of age at least. It sucks but age and looks are a big factor and a big hurdle to overcome whether or not some want to believe it or not.4. I am 28...and I still hit on 18-19 y.o..that's the age I like.
Yapper said:Holy Moses. You make chasing tail sound like a gym workout routine. Enough sets and your biceps will be bulging through your small T.
Listen, buddy, there's no way you can go 225 approaches and only get 3 numbers and not be either just horrendous looking or doing something horribly wrong.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Stop keeping a fvcking running tally! Your effort is best used by learning from each interaction and making appropriate adjustments. What exactly have you learned? What is it that makes you so successful online that you can carry over?Viking25 said:...I approached around 225 girls in 3 months and had almost zero results...
That's strange because I'm 5'6 and while that is short, it's never been a problem for me. That's why I always find it humorous that chicks I've met in the past who were "taller" than me were still interested.wutangfinancial said:I'm 5'8 and I get rejected because I'm short ALL the time,even by girls that think I'm really cute.
How do you know it's specifically because of your height? Do they actually tell you?I'm 5'8 and I get rejected because I'm short ALL the time,even by girls that think I'm really cute.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.