"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How soon is too soon

XSilverStarboyX

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I just want to know this for future refrences. say a girl you want to date has just broken up with her bf, how soon is too soon to ask her out. i always seem to get myself in these situations how do you handle it? of course i know if its the girl asking me out after that, i dont go for it because she always ends up doing it out of anger at her ex, or she doesnt want to be bfless
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by XSilverStarboyX
I just want to know this for future refrences. say a girl you want to date has just broken up with her bf, how soon is too soon to ask her out. i always seem to get myself in these situations how do you handle it? of course i know if its the girl asking me out after that, i dont go for it because she always ends up doing it out of anger at her ex, or she doesnt want to be bfless
just show her a good time, go biking, rollerblading, go kart racing, paintball :p

dont be like hey lets go to the movies, oh how about dinner too. :rolleyes:
 

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If you're really interested in this girl, take her to go see a hypnotherapist. Then she won't be such an angry wart anymore!
 

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so basically what you are saying is dont worry about how long. if you are interested dont let it bother you. am i right?
 
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