"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How soon is "too soon" for a date after the call?

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Wait you just broke all the rules. WTF.
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Yes :yes:

The question is with which kind of mindset do i tackle the issue?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The question is with which kind of mindset do i tackle the issue?
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Yeah, lol.
 
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Well I have already said I have a "fear of commitment", lol, so that is partially why I don't make plans way in advance.

But besides me, and just in general, I think the first date or two shouldn't seem like some big deal that you need more than a week to plan for. 3-4 days in advance is ideal. Call on a Sunday, make plans for a Wed or Thurs.

Because #1, it should be fresh in her mind, and... I just can't think of a reason to make a date very far in advance, but I can think of quite a few why you shouldn't! It has nothing to do with quality, you don't know jack about a chick's quality until you've went out a few times with her.

STR8UP's thing of not calling til a few hours before is taking it too far, IMO. That isn't even a date! That's a "if you aren't doing anything now" spur of the moment thing.

3-4 days is ideal.
 
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