zekko
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I have to admit that might interest me just because it's so different.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How should women open you? - What will make you interested?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
zekko
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I remember when I was younger I was generally clueless as to when women were hitting on me. I find most women tend to try to be pretty pleasant in their everyday interactions, so it's hard to tell sometimes. I guess if they throw in a little kino, that's a clue. Although some girls are just touchy, so again it's hard to tell. You kind of have to make some sort of move or initiate something to find out. Women are generally subtle in their flirtations.
Maybe I should make a different situation. You are going to have a new female colleague. You have no sexual interest in her. Would you not want to be able to talk about stuff you like rather than other annoying stuff?
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Even then, very few. Lol
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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It would certainly be a more interesting topic than "what's your favourite travel destination", "what's your favourite food" and other mind-dumbing sh!t women usually talk about on dates.
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They shouldn’t. Go read my thread.
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You, sir, deserve a medal.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Well, first off I'm easygoing. Secondly, I take pleasure in simple things.
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I'm not into being cold approached, I would rather her signal being open to be approached then decide myself.
I noticed especially after my 30s that all women that "cold approach" or show interest basically fish for information regarding my work/status and I find it very unpleasant especially since none of that happened in my 20s when attraction was raw and genuine.
I noticed especially after my 30s that all women that "cold approach" or show interest basically fish for information regarding my work/status and I find it very unpleasant especially since none of that happened in my 20s when attraction was raw and genuine.