"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How should this be done?

RiceandChicken

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I've been reading that if you don't care about what the girl does, you actually male better progress. Is it true? Or am I looking and thinking about it the wrong way? Thanks for response.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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LearningSlowly

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Good question.

Yes, that's generally good advice. Nothing the girl does should BOTHER you. Never let her affect you negatively, always have a good time.

If she's being fun and social, give her some attention and credit. Be fun and social WITH her. If she is more reserved, don't try to cheer her up, just have a lot of fun and let the mood be infectious.

Hope that helped.
 

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Yes. However, if you don't care in the sense that you don't take any action, then you will fail. You must take action, but anyone's reaction shall not affect you in any way.
 

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Yep! You don't care what she does because you should be too busy living an AWESOME life! So awesome that she'll be bugging you to join it. You should bringing her into your world. I agree with everyone who wrote on this thread. When she pops up in your world, then take action! Since she's gonna want to be in your world, anything you do will be cool, so you should be worry free.
 

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it's an interesting dynamic. I've found myself attracting HB9s in the passed due mostly to me convincing myself I had no chance with them. Of course it all goes to sh!t when they start showing interest and the I reciprocate and in turn puts them off! (one reason for coming here!)

Its like.. have you ever noticed you seem to naturally attract women more when you're in an LTR than single?...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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