"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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RiceandChicken

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I've been reading that if you don't care about what the girl does, you actually male better progress. Is it true? Or am I looking and thinking about it the wrong way? Thanks for response.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LearningSlowly

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Good question.

Yes, that's generally good advice. Nothing the girl does should BOTHER you. Never let her affect you negatively, always have a good time.

If she's being fun and social, give her some attention and credit. Be fun and social WITH her. If she is more reserved, don't try to cheer her up, just have a lot of fun and let the mood be infectious.

Hope that helped.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Yes. However, if you don't care in the sense that you don't take any action, then you will fail. You must take action, but anyone's reaction shall not affect you in any way.
 

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Yep! You don't care what she does because you should be too busy living an AWESOME life! So awesome that she'll be bugging you to join it. You should bringing her into your world. I agree with everyone who wrote on this thread. When she pops up in your world, then take action! Since she's gonna want to be in your world, anything you do will be cool, so you should be worry free.
 

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it's an interesting dynamic. I've found myself attracting HB9s in the passed due mostly to me convincing myself I had no chance with them. Of course it all goes to sh!t when they start showing interest and the I reciprocate and in turn puts them off! (one reason for coming here!)

Its like.. have you ever noticed you seem to naturally attract women more when you're in an LTR than single?...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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