I had dropped from 110 kilos to 85 kilos, but for various reasons I gained weight again. I am 120 kilos. Is it more logical to cut calories a lot and get smaller first and then shape up, or to shape your body by focusing on sports without cutting calories too much?
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Depends on your goals. If you want to build more muscle, bulking is more conducive for muscle growth. Then you can cut later to lean out. If you decide to go on a deficit and deprive your body of calories, muscle growth won't be high on the priority list.
Doesn't mean you should eat whatever you want. Either eat calories at maintenance or a slight surplus with a clean diet for the most part
If you're focusing on sports, muscle growth and vanity probabaly shouldn't be a priority. Muscles require more energy and oxygen, so you'd burn out a bit quicker depending on how much you build.
I'd say strength training, like powerlifting or weightlifting, would be far more beneficial for sports. But I don't know if you're playing basketball or boxing.
In any case, cardio is generally king when it comes to sports
Also, I don't think this is the best place to ask or look for answers about this. I think most of the posters here don't actively work out
Doesn't mean you should eat whatever you want. Either eat calories at maintenance or a slight surplus with a clean diet for the most part
If you're focusing on sports, muscle growth and vanity probabaly shouldn't be a priority. Muscles require more energy and oxygen, so you'd burn out a bit quicker depending on how much you build.
I'd say strength training, like powerlifting or weightlifting, would be far more beneficial for sports. But I don't know if you're playing basketball or boxing.
In any case, cardio is generally king when it comes to sports
Also, I don't think this is the best place to ask or look for answers about this. I think most of the posters here don't actively work out
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Good take, Oatmeal31. At 120 kg, cutting some weight could help with mobility and overall health, especially for sports. Muscle gain won’t be great in a deficit, but a moderate cut with strength training can help preserve muscle while leaning out.
Cardio’s definitely key for performance, but strength work helps with injury prevention and overall power. And yeah, forums can be hit or miss, but different views can still be useful.
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Really depends on your current fitness level
The degree to which you are overweight can slow you down. If you are carrying a lot it will impede performance (here's example: If you are very overweight it will prevent being able to do many pullups, or even just one. Running becomes difficult with the extra weight etc)
120 kilograms is a lot brother, even for a "tall" person. Not fat shaming but really need to bring it down, it will make things easier. If was just few kilos it wouldn't matter but in this case focus should be losing weight. If have access to gym can still lift weights etc - your weight will have no bearing on these type of exercises.
The degree to which you are overweight can slow you down. If you are carrying a lot it will impede performance (here's example: If you are very overweight it will prevent being able to do many pullups, or even just one. Running becomes difficult with the extra weight etc)
120 kilograms is a lot brother, even for a "tall" person. Not fat shaming but really need to bring it down, it will make things easier. If was just few kilos it wouldn't matter but in this case focus should be losing weight. If have access to gym can still lift weights etc - your weight will have no bearing on these type of exercises.