How should I text this girl I like? HELP PLEASE

[Kez]

There's this girl at my job that I think is cute and I wouldn't mind dating/ being close to her. I know you shouldn't date your coworkers but I'll take the chance. Not to mention, school starts soon so I won't even be there for a long while. Anyway last night, when we clocked out, I tried talking to her so I could see if she had a boyfriend and see if she wants to hang out sometime. but customers came in at the last second and our boss told her to take them. My ride was rushing me so I had to leave. I checked the schedule for next week and we don't work together at all. I don't wanna wait a week+ to talk to her like I wanted to. What if we don't get scheduled together the week after that?

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ANYWAYS, the app where our schedules are posted also has everyone's number (just in case we need to text or email someone asking for shift coverage etc.) so it's normal for us to get each other's numbers and text out the random asking for a favor and what not. So at this point, I'm just going to text her and ask my questions. Yeah, it might be cowardly, but I literally have no other option.
We're cool with each other and she's really friendly so I'm sure it won't be weird or anything...I hope. She'll clearly know that I got her number from the app but like I said, it's normal for us to do that.

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But what do I say? I told my friend that I was going to text her and ask if she has a boyfriend, and my friend told me that "I'm really bad at this". Like what else is there to say? I was just going to ask that then if she says no, I was going to say that we should make a move/ hang out sometime and then the conversation will go from there.

Can someone help? Sorry for the long post. Thank you!

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**TL;DR: I like this girl and want to ask if she's dating anyone and wants to hang out sometime. I won't see her in person for who knows how long, so I've decided to text her and ask her those questions. My friend suggested that that's not the way I should go about texting her. What should I say then?**

 

[Igetit!]

There's this girl at my job.......

STOP RIGHT THERE......

Dude.....come on now......do we REALLY NEED to go through this?

You know the perils,you know the pitfalls,you know the possibilities. And I know you say you probably don't care cause you're not going to be at the job long cause school is about to start...but this job WILL BE part of your work history. Just keep that in mind.

Something tells me that it'd be easier to convince a crack addict who's hasn't had a hit in a week to not take a hit off a pipe that's sitting right in front of him,than it would be to get you to leave this girl alone.

Now....I'm not saying not to try to make a play for the girl,just not the way YOU have in mind.

Anyway last night, when we clocked out, I tried talking to her so I could see if she had a boyfriend and see if she wants to hang out sometime. but customers came in at the last second and our boss told her to take them.

GOOD. Good that those customers coming in STOPPED YOU from making an approach mistake.

My ride was rushing me so I had to leave.

Double Good for him.

I checked the schedule for next week and we don't work together at all.

Good again. That'll give you some time to THINK STRAIGHT first.

What if we don't get scheduled together the week after that?

What if you don't? Dude.....I know you like this girl,but she's NOT the only chick on the planet. You need to STOP ACTING LIKE SHE IS......that "anxiousness" will have you acting all weird around her. You're acting like you've been out in a 130 degree desert under the hot sun for a week without anything to drink,and she's a tall cold glass of water.

You NEED a week to wait. If you get in touch with her acting like this,not only will she reject you,but imagine how awkward the work environment will be.

ANYWAYS, the app where our schedules are posted also has everyone's number (just in case we need to tedxt or email someone asking for shift coverage etc.) so it's normal for us to get each other's numbers and text out the random asking for a favor and what not. So at this point, I'm just going to text her and ask my questions. Yeah, it might be cowardly, but I literally have no other option.

NO.......DON'T DO THAT.

DO NOT get her number from the work schedule and try to ask her out on a date. If you do that,there's a GOOD CHANCE it's going to get back to all your co-workers,then superiors,and then management. You doing this will probably lead to a new policy or something being implimented.

If you're just dead set on asking her out,do it AWAY FROM WORK.......away from company grounds. And DON'T USE company tools (that app) for your dating/social life.........that's a harassment charge just waiting to happen.

We're cool with each other and she's really friendly so I'm sure it won't be weird or anything...I hope.

The fact that you two "are cool" with one another and she's been really friendly towards you ARE NEGATIVES concerning what you have planned to do. Of course she's cool and friendly.......you haven't asked anything of her. Even at your young age,you should know that once you introduce sex or sexual talk/expectations into the mix,things are going to change......DRASTICALLY.

You make her uncomfortable,and I GUARANTEE YOU........you're going to see a side of her you never knew even existed.

She'll clearly know that I got her number from th0e app but like I said, it's normal for us to do that.

Yeah,but it's not normal to try to set up dates and ask people out using info from the app...that's not what it was set up for.

Dude,don't do this.

But what do I say? I told my friend that I was going to text her and ask if she has a boyfriend, and my friend etold me that "I'm really bad at this".

Your friend is 100% CORRECT. Not only is what you plan to say is bad,but how you plan to go about saying it (the app) is bad too.

You should be THANKFUL you got a week apart from this chick.


If you're going to ask her out,fine. Even that HORRIBLE LINE......about asking if she has a boyfriend,if you wanna use that,then fine.....but DON'T get her number from that app that's intended FOR WORK and MISUSE IT in hopes to try to get the date. Find another way.

 

[Kez]

STOP RIGHT THERE......

Dude.....come on now......do we REALLY NEED to go through this?

You know the perils,you know the pitfalls,you know the possibilities. And I know you say you probably don't care cause you're not going to be at the job long cause school is about to start...but this job WILL BE part of your work history. Just keep that in mind.

Something tells me that it'd be easier to convince a crack addict who's hasn't had a hit in a week to not take a hit off a pipe that's sitting right in front of him,than it would be to get you to leave this girl alone.

Now....I'm not saying not to try to make a play for the girl,just not the way YOU have in mind.




GOOD. Good that those customers coming in STOPPED YOU from making an approach mistake.




Double Good for him.




Good again. That'll give you some time to THINK STRAIGHT first.




What if you don't? Dude.....I know you like this girl,but she's NOT the only chick on the planet. You need to STOP ACTING LIKE SHE IS......that "anxiousness" will have you acting all weird around her. You're acting like you've been out in a 130 degree desert under the hot sun for a week without anything to drink,and she's a tall cold glass of water.

You NEED a week to wait. If you get in touch with her acting like this,not only will she reject you,but imagine how awkward the work environment will be.





NO.......DON'T DO THAT.

DO NOT get her number from the work schedule and try to ask her out on a date. If you do that,there's a GOOD CHANCE it's going to get back to all your co-workers,then superiors,and then management. You doing this will probably lead to a new policy or something being implimented.

If you're just dead set on asking her out,do it AWAY FROM WORK.......away from company grounds. And DON'T USE company tools (that app) for your dating/social life.........that's a harassment charge just waiting to happen.



The fact that you two "are cool" with one another and she's been really friendly towards you ARE NEGATIVES concerning what you have planned to do. Of course she's cool and friendly.......you haven't asked anything of her. Even at your young age,you should know that once you introduce sex or sexual talk/expectations into the mix,things are going to change......DRASTICALLY.

You make her uncomfortable,and I GUARANTEE YOU........you're going to see a side of her you never knew even existed.




Yeah,but it's not normal to try to set up dates and ask people out using info from the app...that's not what it was set up for.

Dude,don't do this.




Your friend is 100% CORRECT. Not only is what you plan to say is bad,but how you plan to go about saying it (the app) is bad too.

You should be THANKFUL you got a week apart from this chick.


If you're going to ask her out,fine. Even that HORRIBLE LINE......about asking if she has a boyfriend,if you wanna use that,then fine.....but DON'T get her number from that app that's intended FOR WORK and MISUSE IT in hopes to try to get the date. Find another way.

So how should I go about talking to her and letting her know I'm interested?

And believe it or not, our job actually has no problems with coworkers dating each other. It's stated word-for-word in the policy handbook that they actually encourage that happening to improve productivity or something like that. I'll have to check to see what it says verbatim but yup, they have no problems with it. My bosses wouldn't care and I wouldn't care about what my coworkers have to say.

Yeah, I think I'm looking too much into it. It's not as difficult as I'm making it. She's just a girl lol. I'm putting too much focus into when really, all I need to do is have a simple conversation, then somehow slide my way in there and ask for her number and try to hang out sometime.

I don't see her anywhere else but at work though, that's what I was trying to explain. That's why I was going to text her and talk because who knows when the next time I'll see her at work will be? I might not even see her the week after that, as I have no control over the hours I work. So I don't think asking her out outside of work could happen since again, we're not that close and I don't see/talk to her outside of work.