How should I respond to this e-mail from girl after 1st date?

[skinnydart]

So after our first date, she leaves for break the next morning, and I get this e-mail a few days later and wanted to run it by u guys before I respond. I had taken her out for dinner and personally, was nervous during the date and didn't think it went that well but I like her and therefore enjoyed it.

Exact message:
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Hey skinny! i hope your holiday is going well so far. I wanted to write because i thought we had a fun time saturday and i wasnt sure if i got a chance to tell you. i really got to learn more about you and i find you very interesting...so...keep up the good work i guess (im not sure what one is suppose to say to that).* Anyhow, have a great christmas and hope we get to catch a play soon!

Drive safe! ?(I ran the car off the road onto the grass during our first date )

Take Care,
Sara Pearce
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* what the heck does she mean by this?

I know some people say never tell a girl that you've had a good time but should I reciprocate in my responce? I was thinking making fun somehow of the whole running off the road thing but I need some ideas of what to say or if I should even respond.

 

[Not a Game]

You don't have to be too worried about what you write at this point. From the email, it's obvious she likes you and wants to see you again.

Just keep it light and tell her you'll talk to her later, so she'll be thinking about you and will anticipate your call. Throw in something funny so she doesn't think you're a robot or something. Other than that I'd say you're home free.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

yeah not to woried but still watch what you say because she deffintly likes you but things can change.

just do what you think is best, that should be fine as you will make sure its not afc wont you.

 

[Desdinova]

This email is just a cue that you SHOULD set up a second date with her. She's shown her interest in you, and even vocalized it in an email. It just means that you're doing things right and need to continue.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by skinnydart
So after our first date, she leaves for break the next morning, and I get this e-mail a few days later and wanted to run it by u guys before I respond. I had taken her out for dinner and personally, was nervous during the date and didn't think it went that well but I like her and therefore enjoyed it.

Exact message:
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Hey skinny! i hope your holiday is going well so far. I wanted to write because i thought we had a fun time saturday and i wasnt sure if i got a chance to tell you. i really got to learn more about you and i find you very interesting...so...keep up the good work i guess (im not sure what one is suppose to say to that).* Anyhow, have a great christmas and hope we get to catch a play soon!

Drive safe! ?(I ran the car off the road onto the grass during our first date )

Take Care,
Sara Pearce
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* what the heck does she mean by this?

I know some people say never tell a girl that you've had a good time but should I reciprocate in my responce? I was thinking making fun somehow of the whole running off the road thing but I need some ideas of what to say or if I should even respond.

"Keep up the good work" just sounds like she's fumbling for a pithy phrase and comes up short. Overall, I'd keep your response brief. You can say something witty, but make the E-mail relatively short...the impression you want to give is: 'Cool. I had fun too...talk to you soon.'

 

[ego]

Don't write too short, or too long.

You don't want to become her email-buddy, remember that.

But at the same time, you want to write her a couple of lines to show that you take yourself time to write her.

So, don't write a one line-email. 5-6 lines is cool. Don't ask any questions in your email - or else you'll end up with a long conversation. Finish with "I'll give you a call some day. Talk to you soon."

 

[skinnydart]

i really got to learn more about you

Ok, is this future or past tense. Is she saying "I was able to learn more about you" or "I really need to learn more about you"? I don't remember telling her much about myself the whole date, but o well.

Ok, so this is what i have so far, not sure how I should work the "I'll call you" into it, seeing that i won't be seeing her until the middle of Jan (she's across the country) and I don't think I should call her between now and then just to chat right?

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Hey Sarah,

I had a good time too, not sure how soon they’ll have that first play, but we’ll definitely have to see it!

I’ll try to drive safe, but I hope that doesn’t mean one can’t test the off-road capabilities of his new Escort. j/k
Ok, maybe that Jeep thing was a good idea. *

Try to stay sober for at least some of the break; you’ll want to be able to remember some of the cool things you did so you can tell me about it. (See, I learned a few things about you too) **

You and your family have a nice Christmas,

Skinny
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* She had mentioned on the date that she liked jeeps and wanted to get one some day.

** I had learned on the date that she drinks with her family during holidays and stuff, and that one time she drank a little to much and her dad got mad at her.

 

[diablo]

overanalyzation alert!
overanalyzation alert!
overanalyzation alert!
overanalyzation alert!
overanalyzation alert!

 

[Desdinova]

Why the hell don't you just phone her and set up another date?

 

[skinnydart]

overanalyzation? How is that?

Why the hell don't you just phone her and set up another date?

Because she's not here, and won't be until jan 18th, she went home.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by skinnydart
overanalyzation? How is that?

Originally posted by skinnydart
Ok, is this future or past tense?

It's irrelevant. Who cares if it's past, future, or present? That shouldn't be what you're focusing on. There's no need to pick apart every possible meaning of every sentence she utters to you - you're not going to be happy that way. I understand it's not coming naturally to you, but you do have to fend for yourself a bit - you won't have everyone on the forum to help you with every aspect of your interactions between you and her. It sounds like you've done a good job with her in person, keep that up! Emails shouldn't be such a source of worry - definitely not worth thinking for hours about what you can say to write back. Did she spend hours figuring out just what to say to you? Of course not. Write back. Don't think about her words so much as the meaning behind the words. This is what I mean when I say you're overanalyzing the letter she wrote you.

 

[skinnydart]

Ok, so forget about the tense, what about the e-mail, does it sounds ok?

 

[diablo]

If that's what's congruent with your personality, or the side of your personality that you showed her, then yes - go for it. If she's going to read it and wonder "who the hell wrote that?!" then I'd say you're better off starting over.

 

[skinnydart]

So any other suggesttions? I mean does it sound at least half way decent or am I just off my rocker?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

I'm totally with diablo on this one. What do you mean what are you overanalyzing!? You're taking a sentence from her e-mail and running it through your head over and over again. Stop making such a big deal out of it. You ARE overanalyzing it by just posting this. Don't try to make something out of nothing.

 

[RedKnight04]

Heres what I would say bro:

Sarah,

Whats up girl?

I had fun too but please no staulking! (Insert a wink).

Well have a great Christmas and I can't wait to see the Plasma TV you bought me under the tree! Whats that you say? No TV? Well don't worry you can still buy me dinner!

I gotta run out now but we'll talk soon.

Skinny

 

[blue17]

^^ That's not bad, but if that's not his normal personality then it would seem awkward and forced.

 

[skinnydart]

but still watch what you say because she deffintly likes you but things can change... you will make sure its not afc wont you

I'm wasn't exactly sure what you were refering too regarding the afc stuff in the responce, so I was just making sure it didn't sound to afc'ish. I can take care care of the making-it-sound-like-me part.

 

[skinnydart]

grrr, I guess my first attempt at a neg hit didn't work quite right.
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MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

i wouldnt say i was a drunkard but i do drink on the occasion. Hope u dont think bad of me. And have blast testing the capibilities of your escort. Kudos!

See ya!
Sara

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[jason86]

My reply:

'Hey Pearcey. Yeh i had a cool time on Saturday too. I know you're away until the 18th.. so whenevers clever after that, just say. I also learned a lot about you on Sat and found you.. lets say.. intriguing. So keep up the good work too i guess