How should I play this...

[robertj]

So, before I was traveling to another city for business. I tell a girl that I'm seeing where I'm going to be. She tells me that coincidentally she's going to be in the same city at the same time. She then says that "I can see you anytime" (in our home city), and that she already has plans. We're not exclusive and I'm not upset that she had plans. Yet, the way she came across with the "I can see you anytime" felt like little slap in face, taking me for granted and made me want to say... uh no you can't see me anytime you want. She then contacts me after the trip to get together for drinks - and I don't want to even respond. Am I being too sensitive & egotistical or was I disrespected and should I write her off?

 

[beforeimgone]

So, before I was traveling to another city for business. I tell a girl that I'm seeing where I'm going to be. She tells me that coincidentally she's going to be in the same city at the same time. She then says that "I can see you anytime" (in our home city), and that she already has plans. We're not exclusive and I'm not upset that she had plans. Yet, the way she came across with the "I can see you anytime" felt like little slap in face, taking me for granted and made me want to say... uh no you can't see me anytime you want. She then contacts me after the trip to get together for drinks - and I don't want to even respond. Am I being too sensitive & egotistical or was I disrespected and should I write her off?

Not being sensitive at all. One of my plates started responding to requests hours later or 'forgetting.' I didn't confront her bad behavior, but I did ghost for about two days. She sweetened up, but she still isn't sweet enough. That's partly why she can't advance past plate level.

I say ignore her for a few days. She's way too comfortable.

 

[marmel75]

So, before I was traveling to another city for business. I tell a girl that I'm seeing where I'm going to be. She tells me that coincidentally she's going to be in the same city at the same time. She then says that "I can see you anytime" (in our home city), and that she already has plans. We're not exclusive and I'm not upset that she had plans. Yet, the way she came across with the "I can see you anytime" felt like little slap in face, taking me for granted and made me want to say... uh no you can't see me anytime you want. She then contacts me after the trip to get together for drinks - and I don't want to even respond. Am I being too sensitive & egotistical or was I disrespected and should I write her off?

That was her way of teling you: "I'm seeing/banging someone else when I get there". Think about it if the shoes were reversed. If you had someone else in the other city to bang and she was going to be there also, who would you see? Obviously the chick you only get to see once in a while. Which is why she responded the way she did, it was actually just a continuation of the unsaid sentence I just quoted above. Except she left in vague terms "I have plans".

No reason to be mad or pissed, she isn't your GF, go see her and bang her. Stop being so sensitive.

 

[Glassguy]

I agree with @marmel75

Single life is one big open relationship. Plates are part of it. She told you in a nice way that she had some D lined up and she would get with you when she got back. Its not a relationship, so you can either be ok with it, or cut her loose.

I am certainly a big hypocrite when it comes to spinning plates. I always assume any decent looking chick is talking to multiple guys, but if/when I find out they are sleeping with them as well, I just withdraw attention.

 

[beforeimgone]

I agree with @marmel75

but if/when I find out they are sleeping with them as well, I just withdraw attention.

Why? That's everyones pvssy too

 

[resilient]

Why? That's everyones pvssy too

Shop is open for business when she isn't exclusive. Every D gets a slice of that communal pie.