"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How should I have reacted?

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Let me first say that Ive been in the town Im in for about 6 months now and I still havent made that many friends. Well Im a car guy and on friday/saturday nights theres a spot in town where a bunch of people hangout and race. I stopped by last weekend and I was standing beside my car and talking on my cell. A car with girls drove by and slowed down and the girl in the passenger seat stuck her head out the window and looked at me and said "Nice car!". I wasnt sure what I shouldve said so I froze and just kept talking on my cell.
I do have a nice car but I dont want to use the car to get girls as it'd mainly attract golddiggers. So what wouldve been a good reaction to this? I'll prolly be down there next weekend also and hopefully make some friends btw.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think the problem here is you're worrying too much about what you should have said, causing you to freeze up and say nothing which is the worst thing. It doesn't really matter what you say, you just want to get the conversation rolling.

Girl: Hey nice car!

You: Hey thanks, you wanna check it out?

Then just build off that and her responses. You don't need anything super smooth, especially when a girl took the initiative.
 

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Yea I guess you're right, I just didnt wanna put too much emphasis on the car seeing how I should be the prize and I'd rather not meet a girl by having my car pull her in. Though maybe it doesnt nesscessarily mean a girls a golddigger for complimenting your car, just happens to be the situation.
 

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Yea I guess you're right, I just didnt wanna put too much emphasis on the car seeing how I should be the prize and I'd rather not meet a girl by having my car pull her in. Though maybe it doesnt nesscessarily mean a girls a golddigger for complimenting your car, just happens to be the situation.
 

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Well keep in mind she probably had some attraction to you despite your car. I mean for you to presume she was just gold digging you'd have to have a really nice car and be and old ugly slob. Girls will like you more because of things you have, but not just because of that. That's the way it is and it doesn't mean the girls are necessarily golddigging.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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why not use the car as a tool to start a conversation?? I don't think that every girl who tells you that you have a nice car is necessarily a gold digger. If you have a nice car chances are more girls are gonna compliment you about it.

Last week I bought a nice, stylish earring and just wore that on my pierced ear without thinking much about it. I didn't think it was anything special or that it would be noticed but a lot of girls commented me about it, so I kept in mind of a few good possible responses to keep the convo going so I'd be ready for the next time they'd compliment it. Do the same...it'll help your freezing up problem.

Some stuff you wear can be a great tool to start a conv.
 

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amnbyrd said:
Let me first say that Ive been in the town Im in for about 6 months now and I still havent made that many friends. Well Im a car guy and on friday/saturday nights theres a spot in town where a bunch of people hangout and race. I stopped by last weekend and I was standing beside my car and talking on my cell. A car with girls drove by and slowed down and the girl in the passenger seat stuck her head out the window and looked at me and said "Nice car!". I wasnt sure what I shouldve said so I froze and just kept talking on my cell.
I do have a nice car but I dont want to use the car to get girls as it'd mainly attract golddiggers. So what wouldve been a good reaction to this? I'll prolly be down there next weekend also and hopefully make some friends btw.
"It ain't the ride that matters, it's the rider" - Tokyo Drift.

Wooooooo.

Or you could have just blown them a kiss.

You're over-thinking.
 
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