"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How should I have reacted?

amnbyrd

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Let me first say that Ive been in the town Im in for about 6 months now and I still havent made that many friends. Well Im a car guy and on friday/saturday nights theres a spot in town where a bunch of people hangout and race. I stopped by last weekend and I was standing beside my car and talking on my cell. A car with girls drove by and slowed down and the girl in the passenger seat stuck her head out the window and looked at me and said "Nice car!". I wasnt sure what I shouldve said so I froze and just kept talking on my cell.
I do have a nice car but I dont want to use the car to get girls as it'd mainly attract golddiggers. So what wouldve been a good reaction to this? I'll prolly be down there next weekend also and hopefully make some friends btw.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think the problem here is you're worrying too much about what you should have said, causing you to freeze up and say nothing which is the worst thing. It doesn't really matter what you say, you just want to get the conversation rolling.

Girl: Hey nice car!

You: Hey thanks, you wanna check it out?

Then just build off that and her responses. You don't need anything super smooth, especially when a girl took the initiative.
 

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Yea I guess you're right, I just didnt wanna put too much emphasis on the car seeing how I should be the prize and I'd rather not meet a girl by having my car pull her in. Though maybe it doesnt nesscessarily mean a girls a golddigger for complimenting your car, just happens to be the situation.
 

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Yea I guess you're right, I just didnt wanna put too much emphasis on the car seeing how I should be the prize and I'd rather not meet a girl by having my car pull her in. Though maybe it doesnt nesscessarily mean a girls a golddigger for complimenting your car, just happens to be the situation.
 

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Well keep in mind she probably had some attraction to you despite your car. I mean for you to presume she was just gold digging you'd have to have a really nice car and be and old ugly slob. Girls will like you more because of things you have, but not just because of that. That's the way it is and it doesn't mean the girls are necessarily golddigging.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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why not use the car as a tool to start a conversation?? I don't think that every girl who tells you that you have a nice car is necessarily a gold digger. If you have a nice car chances are more girls are gonna compliment you about it.

Last week I bought a nice, stylish earring and just wore that on my pierced ear without thinking much about it. I didn't think it was anything special or that it would be noticed but a lot of girls commented me about it, so I kept in mind of a few good possible responses to keep the convo going so I'd be ready for the next time they'd compliment it. Do the same...it'll help your freezing up problem.

Some stuff you wear can be a great tool to start a conv.
 

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amnbyrd said:
Let me first say that Ive been in the town Im in for about 6 months now and I still havent made that many friends. Well Im a car guy and on friday/saturday nights theres a spot in town where a bunch of people hangout and race. I stopped by last weekend and I was standing beside my car and talking on my cell. A car with girls drove by and slowed down and the girl in the passenger seat stuck her head out the window and looked at me and said "Nice car!". I wasnt sure what I shouldve said so I froze and just kept talking on my cell.
I do have a nice car but I dont want to use the car to get girls as it'd mainly attract golddiggers. So what wouldve been a good reaction to this? I'll prolly be down there next weekend also and hopefully make some friends btw.
"It ain't the ride that matters, it's the rider" - Tokyo Drift.

Wooooooo.

Or you could have just blown them a kiss.

You're over-thinking.
 
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