"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How should I have handled this

Weezy

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What is the proper DJ way to handle this situation.

You call up your LTR, you are dominate, she is submissive. You've been getting sloppy tho over the past few months, not giving her enough attention and affection.

You call your chick to see if she's coming over, she says she's having a drink with her friend, who is a guy... who has been her friend since before you started dating to celebrate him finishing med school finals... She invites you to come join them, but you've got other sh1t ta do, so you tell her you're going to the gym and she says well call me after.

You go to the gym... call her after, she's now having dinner with this friend, playing darts, tells you to come, you have to getup early for work so you say nah, I can't, gotta get up early, she begs you some more.. you get says she'll be done soon and will be over. You give her **** with her that she's having dinner with some other dude go to your house and pass the **** out.

This is 10PM ish.

She shows up to your place at 2:30... says she fell asleep on her couch and that she was only out with this guy for an hour or so after you talked..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ease

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Carry on as normal, but keep a very keen eye on the situation and be ready with back up ****-buddies incase the worst happens.

It would be insecure to confront or overthink the situation, since she did beg u to come over and it doesnt seem like that big a deal. A true alpha wouldnt give a ****, he knows his girl isnt going anywhere.

However, its good to have options..
 

Sandow

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I don't think she did anything with that guy if thats what you're worried about.

She was practically begging you to come over and she's been friends with this guy forever. He sounds like a typical AFC so don't think anything happened there. She probably sees him as one of her girlfriends with a penis. Also she was having drinks so she was probably pretty tired.

Yea, its very unlikely anything happened. Next time why don't you just go over there.
 

ENIGMA16

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Weezy said:
You give her **** with her that she's having dinner with some other dude go to your house and pass the **** out.
Fail. You shouldn't have done this.

Sandow said:
He sounds like a typical AFC
Why?
 

SchoolBoy

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I think you handled the situation quite well except for the last part where you gave her sh1t.

I personally would have said "I'm going to sleep, don't worry about coming over, nites."

You were obviously upset at the time you decided to give her sh1t.

Next time when you feel like you want to let your emotions dictate your actions, get some distance and cool off.

Avoid giving women an emotional response.

-SchoolBoy​
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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