"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How should I have handled this

Weezy

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What is the proper DJ way to handle this situation.

You call up your LTR, you are dominate, she is submissive. You've been getting sloppy tho over the past few months, not giving her enough attention and affection.

You call your chick to see if she's coming over, she says she's having a drink with her friend, who is a guy... who has been her friend since before you started dating to celebrate him finishing med school finals... She invites you to come join them, but you've got other sh1t ta do, so you tell her you're going to the gym and she says well call me after.

You go to the gym... call her after, she's now having dinner with this friend, playing darts, tells you to come, you have to getup early for work so you say nah, I can't, gotta get up early, she begs you some more.. you get says she'll be done soon and will be over. You give her **** with her that she's having dinner with some other dude go to your house and pass the **** out.

This is 10PM ish.

She shows up to your place at 2:30... says she fell asleep on her couch and that she was only out with this guy for an hour or so after you talked..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Ease

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Carry on as normal, but keep a very keen eye on the situation and be ready with back up ****-buddies incase the worst happens.

It would be insecure to confront or overthink the situation, since she did beg u to come over and it doesnt seem like that big a deal. A true alpha wouldnt give a ****, he knows his girl isnt going anywhere.

However, its good to have options..
 

Sandow

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I don't think she did anything with that guy if thats what you're worried about.

She was practically begging you to come over and she's been friends with this guy forever. He sounds like a typical AFC so don't think anything happened there. She probably sees him as one of her girlfriends with a penis. Also she was having drinks so she was probably pretty tired.

Yea, its very unlikely anything happened. Next time why don't you just go over there.
 

ENIGMA16

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Weezy said:
You give her **** with her that she's having dinner with some other dude go to your house and pass the **** out.
Fail. You shouldn't have done this.

Sandow said:
He sounds like a typical AFC
Why?
 

SchoolBoy

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I think you handled the situation quite well except for the last part where you gave her sh1t.

I personally would have said "I'm going to sleep, don't worry about coming over, nites."

You were obviously upset at the time you decided to give her sh1t.

Next time when you feel like you want to let your emotions dictate your actions, get some distance and cool off.

Avoid giving women an emotional response.

-SchoolBoy​
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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