"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How should I handle this?

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Girl been talking to only online apparently her bf found out and read some of our messages.

She says he's the jealous type and might react. How should I handle it?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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That is why I tell many guys to avoid gaming girls with boyfriends, ESPECIALLY over an instant messenger when conversations can be saved.
She most likely ratted you out to him, women love attention. I would get some background information about her boyfriend and see if he is somebody you can handle.
 

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WTF do you care about her boyfriend. she was the one sneaking and talking to you...

tell her to keep the dog in his cage...and then back off the chics with d*cks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tonight she messages me saying they're probably breaking up. Sketchy sounding.
 

Lord Shinra

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Do a Flock of Seagulls if he is 6'10" and named Ashley.

But I'm in agreement with Daven, just tell her to get him to f*ck off.
 

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Don't follow her drama, she might be testing you, make fun of her and tell her something like... "Breaking up? Why? Well, if I were him, I wouldn't break up with you as this is the first time that happens to cheat on me, so I would give you one more chance" ... then say to her ..."You see there are some good boys left in this worlds - you can take advantage of me!"

Hope that helps!

Giovanni
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This woman I was seeing had a live-in BF.

He somehow got into her email acct, and started calling me, all pissed and everything. Poor guy even called my DAD!!! (Same name as me.) The guy was a wuss underneath all the bluster. (It all worked out. She kicked him out, she and I kept going for a while, and we sorta drifted apart. He never showed up at my house or anything.)

I'd recommend NOT using IM or email ( or even TEXTS ) with an "attached" chick.

"Plausible deniability", and all.

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Oh great she just hinted towards talking about it. Ahe says "I feel nervous and confused" I don't want to discuss it. What do I do?
 

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Here's what was last said:

HER - i'm about to end a 2 year relationship. excuse me if i don't feel like smiling

ME - If you're ending it then it makes sense to smile :)
I'm about to watch a movie with friends so I have to go, ill talk to you later.

Thoughts?
 

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anyone? i'm really in the dark about this and how im supposed to talk to her about it now. do i "comfort her?" and how so?
 

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Maybe I wasn't clear with my last post.

Her getting caught flirting, cheating, or whatever it was she was doing with you is NOT your problem. At no point should you bring it up. You should not pat her on the back and say things like "It'll be alright. The only thing you should be doing is continuing to have fun in life.

Also, get out there and start spinning more plates. It sounds like you're all in love with this girl and you're not even with her. She's with someone else and you're the little yappy dog that comes and sits on her lap for her to pat on the head.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What do I do if she wants to talk to me about it? She already tried and some of my responses were

"You obviously broke it off for a reason, stop being a baby"

She told me she felt sad for hurting him because he loves her so much etc. I replied with

"Cool, but how do YOU feel? Obviously not the same so stop caring about how others feel. This discussion is over"
 
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