"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How should I handle this?

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Girl been talking to only online apparently her bf found out and read some of our messages.

She says he's the jealous type and might react. How should I handle it?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Axcell

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That is why I tell many guys to avoid gaming girls with boyfriends, ESPECIALLY over an instant messenger when conversations can be saved.
She most likely ratted you out to him, women love attention. I would get some background information about her boyfriend and see if he is somebody you can handle.
 

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WTF do you care about her boyfriend. she was the one sneaking and talking to you...

tell her to keep the dog in his cage...and then back off the chics with d*cks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Tonight she messages me saying they're probably breaking up. Sketchy sounding.
 

Lord Shinra

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Do a Flock of Seagulls if he is 6'10" and named Ashley.

But I'm in agreement with Daven, just tell her to get him to f*ck off.
 

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Don't follow her drama, she might be testing you, make fun of her and tell her something like... "Breaking up? Why? Well, if I were him, I wouldn't break up with you as this is the first time that happens to cheat on me, so I would give you one more chance" ... then say to her ..."You see there are some good boys left in this worlds - you can take advantage of me!"

Hope that helps!

Giovanni
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This woman I was seeing had a live-in BF.

He somehow got into her email acct, and started calling me, all pissed and everything. Poor guy even called my DAD!!! (Same name as me.) The guy was a wuss underneath all the bluster. (It all worked out. She kicked him out, she and I kept going for a while, and we sorta drifted apart. He never showed up at my house or anything.)

I'd recommend NOT using IM or email ( or even TEXTS ) with an "attached" chick.

"Plausible deniability", and all.

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Oh great she just hinted towards talking about it. Ahe says "I feel nervous and confused" I don't want to discuss it. What do I do?
 

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Here's what was last said:

HER - i'm about to end a 2 year relationship. excuse me if i don't feel like smiling

ME - If you're ending it then it makes sense to smile :)
I'm about to watch a movie with friends so I have to go, ill talk to you later.

Thoughts?
 

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anyone? i'm really in the dark about this and how im supposed to talk to her about it now. do i "comfort her?" and how so?
 

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Maybe I wasn't clear with my last post.

Her getting caught flirting, cheating, or whatever it was she was doing with you is NOT your problem. At no point should you bring it up. You should not pat her on the back and say things like "It'll be alright. The only thing you should be doing is continuing to have fun in life.

Also, get out there and start spinning more plates. It sounds like you're all in love with this girl and you're not even with her. She's with someone else and you're the little yappy dog that comes and sits on her lap for her to pat on the head.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What do I do if she wants to talk to me about it? She already tried and some of my responses were

"You obviously broke it off for a reason, stop being a baby"

She told me she felt sad for hurting him because he loves her so much etc. I replied with

"Cool, but how do YOU feel? Obviously not the same so stop caring about how others feel. This discussion is over"
 
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