"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How should I handle this ? please advise me !

chatoh

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Hi !
A long time ago (in late 2007) I had a very short sexual relationship with a 37 year old woman.
Then she dumped me in the coldest manner possible as if I was some disposable object. When I wanted to go back to her, she rejected me more than once. However, once she needed two favors from me, and contacted me in a very pleasant manner , and I was so naive that I helped her through and lend her a helping hand, because I still had feelings for her.
Nevertheless, when I wanted to have a second chance with her, she kept rejecting me. So once, about a yera ago, I sent her an e-mail, saying she had "used" me to obtain favors.
About a month ago I sent her an e-mail greeting her for her birthday, she didn´t even reply. A few days ago, I sent her an e-mail asking her if she could recommend me a printshop for a book I have to print , she hasn´t even replied at all.
I am about to send her an e-mail copying the e-mails she sent me , when she was very nice to me asking for favors, and telling her, what a b**t**ch* she was using me.
Should I do it ?, and tell her she is a manipulative b*t*c*h** who had sex with me a few times, then dumped me, and then had the gust to ask me for favors (which I obliged), or should I just let go, and let things just be ???
Please I need some advise, because that *b*t*ch**´s attitude makes me bitter, and I don´t know how to handle it, just completely forget her, or lash out at her for being such a manipulative *b t ch****.
Thanks !
Chatoh
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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darkstarrr

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chatoh said:
I am about to send her an e-mail copying the e-mails she sent me , when she was very nice to me asking for favors, and telling her, what a b**t**ch* she was using me.
Should I do it?
What you are going through is normal but for God's sake No! Don't do ANYTHING yet.
 

horaholic

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Come on, dude! All of this is nobody's fault but yours. You joined this site before you met this chick, and obviously didnt learn a thing from it. You did favors for you after she shyt on you, and got shyt on again. THEN, you wish this bytch happy birthday over a YEAR later? You said yourself you only had sex a few times. What exactly is the big deal here? She's not manipulative, you are just acting like a supplicating wuss-bag. Im sorry, but it needs to be said.

You should NEVER contact this woman again. You never should have in the first place. Act like a man. You should read some of the stuff on this site, instead of posting, looking for an answer to an obvious question. Why the hell do even still have this chicks email?
 

WC2

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Stop wasting your time with old women bro. Stop sending emails, be productive. Find new YOUNGER women.
 

WhtRbt

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Dude you need to completely forget about this girl like she never even existed. Instead of sending her all of her old emails, just delete them all.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Warrior74

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Stop handing this woman your self respect and move on. She obviously thinks you are lower than dirt if she is treating you this way, and if you continue to allow it then she's right. She told you she was using you and you still continue to talk to her? Cut off all communication and move on! You need to work on your innergame issues and your issues with women. You deserve better man, you have to believe that. Don't you think you deserve better than this?
 

romangod

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chatoh said:
Hi !
So once, about a yera ago, I sent her an e-mail, saying she had "used" me to obtain favors.
About a month ago I sent her an e-mail greeting her for her birthday, she didn´t even reply.

A few days ago, I sent her an e-mail asking her if she could recommend me a printshop for a book I have to print , she hasn´t even replied at all.


I am about to send her an e-mail copying the e-mails she sent me , when she was very nice to me asking for favors, and telling her, what a b**t**ch* she was using me.

Chatoh

I don't think you really like her. I think you just like sending her E-mails.

However, stalking her by e-mails is probably not a good idea.


Cheers!
 

bam bam

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learn and move on
 

chatoh

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Thanks for all your comments. I appreciate your advise. I´ll just forget that manipulative woman, she ain´t worth it.
 
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