How should I handle this fight with my gf

[Sato21m]

We been going out for 9 months. Today last time she called me while I was working I made a nasty joke about her dad I told her your dad could go **** him self something like that but in Spanish I was joking .
She got mad and she told me baby don’t say that again and I told her why not I could say it if I want to and if you don’t like it we could brake up she got really pissed and hang up the phone.

Like 20 mins later i called her and she didn’t picked up, her mom told me she was in the shower. When I get to talk to her I told her that it was my mistake, and that I didn't mean it. She said you always said the same thing blah, blah,blah, its the second time I say something like that to her.
So went I left from my job I went to her house to talk outside, she said she felt really bad blah blah I told her. Listen all I can say is That Im sorry and I wont happen again. She kept saying you always say the same thing, and then she stood quite and I left that’s it.

For the record I have dump her many times she always come back to me, im her life, that’s what she says. Gives me a lot of expensive gifts. She treats me like king not complains. But I don’t want to lose her.

 

[pooparu]

I haven't been on here in a minute, and I don't really have the time to be up here much since I've been back home, but I thought you might actually have a real problem not something retarded like 99% of **** on this board. Anyway bro first off:

She got mad and she told me baby don’t say that again and I told her why not I could say it if I want to and if you don’t like it we could brake up she got really pissed and hang up the phone.

The joke was fine, but man its not really necessary to need absolute power all the time. There was no need for yout o threaten to brake up with her because she asked you not to joke like that about her dad. I'm sure 99% of "DJ"s up here are gonna disagree with what I'm about to say, but **** it, HUMAN EMOTIONS AREN'T **** TO TOY WITH. You don't need to harm or threatan a woman like that just to keep her around man, boundaries and limits are one things, threats and uncessary attacks are pointless man, and in the long run, its gonna breed resentment.

She said you always said the same thing blah, blah,blah, its the second time I say something like that to her.

She kept saying you always say the same thing, and then she stood quite and I left that’s it.

.....why do you keep doing something that you know pisses her off?

For the record I have dump her many times she always come back to me, im her life, that’s what she says. Gives me a lot of expensive gifts. She treats me like king not complains. But I don’t want to lose her.

Maybe you should tell her that last part about not wanting to lose her. Peoplelike to know that they are wanted around, and you going, "well yea we've invested a nearly a year into each other, but I'm willing to throw all that out just so I can one up you and get a joke in on your dad without you reprimanding me". Come on man, if you really didn't wanna lose her then all it would take is for you NOT to keep doing things that you KNOW intentially piss her off. Of course you ca nmake mistakes bro, but don't do **** on purpose that you know get her angry.

 

[Eccentric]

:nono:

I really don't know what to say. You've been with her 9 months. You should know what buttons not to push. Making a joke about her father, then when she confronts you about it, you threaten to break up (even if it was jokingly)?

Yeah if I was her I'd be pissed to. Fact is that after 9 months, she probably expects better from you.

 

[Sato21m]

I send her a text saying I miss your hair..
Less thant a min she replyed I miss you

 

[Eccentric]

Go see her and apologize.