Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How should i go about contacting old FB

jay07

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So i used to mess around with this girl (2.5 years ago), and we just stopped talking one day.

We seemed to hit it off well, but neither of us wanted a relationship so it was really no big deal when things ended.

However, we are still friends on Facebook, and i seen some pics she posted recently and she looks dammnnn good.

Id like to contact her and see if i can start up where we left off, but i have literally not heard from her in 2.5 years. I liked some of her statuses over that time but i had a gf so i wasnt interested in commenting or trying to get her attnetion.

Was thinking about writing on her wall which would be more appropriate than a PM since its been a while and i have no idea what her situation is anymore, i do know shes single (at least according to facebook).

Should i write something to the point like (Hey how ya been?), or should i try to make it a more comical approach? What do you all think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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our only mutual friends were a small group (how we met) but they have since moved and she has a new group of friends now as do i.

I actually drunk texted her like 5 months ago and never got a reply back so in not sure if she changed her number or not since its been awhile and so i dont really want to try texting her again until i know for sure.

I actually gamed her after she wrote on my wall for the first time when we didnt really know each other, i would send her a pm but thats right to the point and since her relationship status is blocked i dont want to give off the vibe im trying to get her back in the sack if shes taken

I feel like if i write a quick message on her wall and she replies, depending on her reply i would then PM her. If she just likes it , its a no go. If she replies with a meaningful response i could then PM her and let her know early on in the convo im interested in meeting up?
 

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Don't post on her wall. Just send her a FB message.
FB messaging is okay since you guys have lost contact with text/phone/email.
In this day and age it's acceptable. You won't come off strong.

How have you been? I haven't seen you since ____ lol (good moment/fake funny/be enthusiastic)!
I'll be in town on the ___. Want to grab a coffee?

Honestly there are probably more than 100 ways of doing better than this crummy script. It doesn't matter. You are way over thinking this.
The key is to remind her of a good moment you guys shared. Keep it short.
 
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Well sent her a pm.

Shes an assistant teacher now, we go to the same college, so i just sent her something like:

"Quick question now that your a teacher and all, you think if i go back and retake my SAT's i can get into a better school? ;)"

Havnt checked fb today dont know if she responded yet but i will tonight. If she dont oh well lol.
 

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jay07 said:
Well sent her a pm.

Shes an assistant teacher now, we go to the same college, so i just sent her something like:

"Quick question now that your a teacher and all, you think if i go back and retake my SAT's i can get into a better school? ;)"

Havnt checked fb today dont know if she responded yet but i will tonight. If she dont oh well lol.
Sounds like you just DLV to her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Eh not really.

Inside joke is we were always complaining about how crappy the school was, the neighborhood is kinda creepy so we'd make jokes about it.
 

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She probably laughed at you using the word "your"
I hope your sentences were okay.
 
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