"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How should I act with her?

Engetsu

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Let me fill you in on this little situation that I'm having. Lately, my LTR has been giving me attitude, not showing me affection, and I caught her lying to me on multiple occasions. Obviously, I broke up with her on the spot, and when she called me a couple of hours later saying she was sorry, I blew her off.

I asked for explanations on multiple occasions, and she explained some things by stress in her life, and other things she had no explanation for. However, she tells me that she realized what she did wrong and if she had the chance to, she wouldn't do things the same way as before. She is repentant. However, I tell her that I'm still confused and I can't see her as a girlfriend right now because she betrayed my trust and stabbed me in the back many times.

She seems repentant, but not enough, and that's the reason I'm not giving her another chance. I get the feeling that she doesn't mean what she say, even though she cries and says it like she means it... To me, something is missing, and I don't know what.

She tells me she's going to wait for my decision, but she might not be around forever. This girl has a lot of street-smart, that's why I need to be steered in the right direction with the following:

How do I act with her now? I told her that I went clubbing, and that I danced with other chicks. Why wouldn't I, I'm single! But she tells me she wouldn't do something like that. She's convinced that I had sex with other girls ever since I broke up with her, even though I tell her the opposite.

Do I C+F her, and should I be a tease? How am I supposed to act with her to make her want me even more, because I want to make her run after me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Engetsu
How am I supposed to act with her to make her want me even more, because I want to make her run after me.
Simple...DON'T! Revenge is what 4 year olds do when you steal their toys.

Living well is the best revenge Engetsu. Dump her backstabbing ass totally. Block her e-mails, ignore her calls and go out and find a better chick to be with.

You are too good a person to have to put up with lying and backstabbing. This kind of behavior is an instant deal breaker. Out the door! GOOD-BYE!!!
 

Engetsu

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Easier said than done... Deep down, I want to be with her, so it's going to be very hard for me to forget her like that.
 

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What did she lie about?
 

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Engetsu,

Go with your gut instincts on this one no matter how badly AT THE MOMENT you feel like deep down you want to be with her!!! If your initial reaction is that something is missing from her apologies I guarantee it is. Take it from a guy who's stayed in some LTR's too long. When you dump an LTR because of unacceptable behavior they'll almost always cry and whisper all of the sweet nothings in your ear that you could ever hope to hear. Everyone hates to lose and it's like right now she's trying to erase a blemish from her dating record. I’d be willing to bet a million dollars that if she gets you back when deep down inside you know that how she's been behaving is unacceptable her behavior is only going to get 10x worse then before because now she knows that A) she can get away with it B) you're weak enough to take her back despite your better judgment. As far as how to act around her now goes I agree with what dementia and WaterTiger said.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Engetsu

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But I don't KNOW how to act around her, no one said anything. Should I have NOT told her that I danced with other girls when I was at the club (true), or C+F'ed every single one of her "did you hit on any girls" type of questions?

She's not running after me enough, even though she did the mistake... Maybe I am asking too much out of her and she's not capable of giving it.
 
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