You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ThisMikeBrown30 said:I would have to be so drunk, that I couldn't see anything closer than an inch to my face. Your friend's a fag.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That's a good point.horaholic said:If he was THAT drunk, he wouldnt have been able to get it up... especially for a dude. He's gay or bi, plain and simple. there aint enough booze in the WORLD, to make me do something like that.
He said he fvcked his male friend. he didnt come up to the op with a gun in his hand and screaming "Where the fvck is Steve? Im gonna kill him. he raped me up the ass last night."TyTe`EyEz said:That isn't something you go around telling people; your friend must really trust you. There's always the possibility that he passed out and was ass raped...?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Doesn't sound like it....TyTe`EyEz said:That isn't something you go around telling people; your friend must really trust you. There's always the possibility that he passed out and was ass raped...?
He was the one doing the fvcking, otherwise he would say "he got fvcked".Alle_Gory said:A buddy of mine made the drunken mistake of telling me he just fvcked one of his friends. Who is a guy.
Son of anarchy said:Whats wrong with that as long as its he to be the man?
I sometimes fvck young femine guys in threesomes with their gfs and i see nothing to be shamefull about.
Getting fvcked from a woman using a dildo thats bad cause you're doing the female there.
He told me he had a sh*tload to drink, over at his buddy's place after going out with a group. Then he tells me the next things he remembers is going into the shower to fvck the guy. "it was like a dream".DJDamage said:He was the one doing the fvcking, otherwise he would say "he got fvcked".
No he isn't. It's forced with the ladies. At first I pegged him as an AFC because of his behavior. He's not too bad though, like your typical AFC.My question is: Is your friend any good with the ladies?! or he just like most guys out there just gets "lucky" from time to time?! or have you in fact seen him with any ladies?!
I could care less which way he swings. See, unlike most people, I actually give a sh*t about what's happening and try to understand instead of wearing my ignorance as a badge of honor.Son of anarchy said:Whats wrong with that as long as its he to be the man?
Let me see if I understand this. Doing the fvcking is good. Getting fvcked is bad. So women, because they get fvcked are lesser creatures than guys who do the fvcking. Same with gay couples whenever they play the masculine, feminine roles.Getting fvcked from a woman using a dildo thats bad cause you're doing the female there.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.